"Dad, you're dying this year, right?"
Che's snuggled beside me, staring into her phone and the question comes out of nowhere.
Sarah's eyes lock with mine and we're both questioning without words.
"Yeah, probably so," I finally say, as casually as I can.
"Well," she grins, "I already have my dress picked out for the party."
Sarah eyes explode into laughter with mine.
"There's not going to be a party," I laugh. "We've already had it. Well, we're still enjoying it now, but there's no party later."
"OK," she happily says, resuming her focus on whatever she's doing on her phone.
It's quite the transition going on in our house, more a sense of expectation of things that are coming, but we talk about it in real time, though we're easily distracted from delving deeper.
One of my current claims to fame is, I'm often publicly recognized as William H. Macy, specifically the way he looked as Frank Gallagher in SHAMELESS.
I freely admit that William H. Massey is one handsome fella, and I LOVE Frank Gallagher, and enjoy these mistaken identities whenever they happen, which is a lot!
Chelsea, Sam, Lily and McKenzie are visiting and we meet at Auspicious Bakery Bread and Butter for brunch.
"Did anyone ever tell you that you look like Frank Gallagher?" our waitress asks, pouring me water.
Chelsea erupts in laughter.
Sarah suggests we watch SHAMELESS again because we enjoyed it so much!
(Frank's farewell in the series finale is my all time favorite ending of all time!).
That evening, after I've fallen asleep, Che asks about Frank, so Sarah pulls up the series finale and show's it to her.
Frank's lying in a hospital bed with oxygen on.
"That looks like my Dad when he was in the hospital!"
"TURN IT OFF!" she exclaims, "TURN IT OFF!"
Che's not there yet.
She sees it coming but she's not ready yet.
There's certainly a sense of getting ready though.
Maddie sends Sarah pictures of places to live in Florida, and we have discussions of what could be and it's hard to not think about all of the possibilities.
It's nice to dream but hard not to think about the realities of life after I am gone.
Che will need the stability of her friends and Sarah has a job that provides her with the flexibility needed with an 8 year old at home when she becomes a single parent.
It is an exquisite dance, dying and living in dreams and reality.
"I guess that's it," Frank happily says, drinking a beer, floating towards Heaven, "Not much left to say, really, except, time's precious. Don't waste it. Have a good time. I sure as hell did."
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My Celebration of Life is done while Sarah and Che have a whole new life together, coming soon and I want to make it special.
Please consider being part of their future at https://gofund.me/ffda4f4b