My eyes opened in the dark and I stared at the silhouettes of the Palm trees I can see out of the five windows I see from this view in my bed. Turning and stretching I see the shape of the lone red leaf on the tree outside of the other two windows. With seven windows in my bedroom its little wonder that I get up before the sun comes up.
Goddess is snoring on the floor. I lay there and think thoughts. “Did I dream about Art Linkletter offering me a deal to take over his company because it needs music? Then I called my Dad and Mom who showed up because they love Art Linkletter?”
This is the worst time of living alone in a house that you used to share. But I think of happier thoughts and reach for the pillow on the other side of the bed.
Getting up I stumble into the shower which is full of memories. I stand there with hot water showering on my head and remember.
When I get out I throw on running clothes and Goddess is now awake waiting on a belly rub. I wish the Lady of the House a good morning, give her treats, grab the keys and head downstairs for the car.
Typically my radio is at full blast as it was this morning. As soon as it started the lyrics filled my brain.
“I’m wearing my fur pajamas … I ride a hot potato …”
And I smile.
It may as well have been God knocking Saul off of that ass he was riding to turn him into St. Paul. The Talking Heads have always knocked me on my ass and this is my favorite song of theirs.
“Like sitting on pins and needles, things fall apart, it’s scientific …”
Ah, things fall apart. They did for me. It’s a fact of life so we may as well grab hold it and enjoy the hell out of the ride.
And driving to the Breakfast Club at 6:15 in the morning I stop the car in the middle of the road. I look at the stars and listen to the lyrics.
“Piece of mind? Piece of cake,” David Byrne sings.
Yep. I’m getting my piece of mind back.
And I say a prayer.
“Hey God,” I call her by name.
“Thank you. Mine really has been a wild, wild life. More right now than ever! At 54 you’d think that I’d be settling down but you are God after all and knew just the right moment to knock Saul on his ass and turn him into a Saint. I trust you. I have my whole life. I’ve been on my ass a lot lately but am ready to get up. Of course you are God and all so in your time … not mine.”
I think I learned that last line in Seminary.
“And forgive Guy Sayles for talking me into going to Seminary. It really wasn’t his fault. And forgive Bill Berry if you can. And when Conner and I stand before you, I promise you will laugh.”
“We wanna go where we go, where we go, I doing wild wild life,” the song goes.
Present tense I notice as I listen.
“Thanks God,” I finish the prayer. “I need coffee now. And I wouldn’t change this life all that much.”
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Wild Wild Life
My eyes opened in the dark and I stared at the silhouettes of the Palm trees I can see out of the five windows I see from this view in my bed. Turning and stretching I see the shape of the lone red leaf on the tree outside of the other two windows. With seven windows in my bedroom its little wonder that I get up before the sun comes up.
Goddess is snoring on the floor. I lay there and think thoughts. “Did I dream about Art Linkletter offering me a deal to take over his company because it needs music? Then I called my Dad and Mom who showed up because they love Art Linkletter?”
This is the worst time of living alone in a house that you used to share. But I think of happier thoughts and reach for the pillow on the other side of the bed.
Getting up I stumble into the shower which is full of memories. I stand there with hot water showering on my head and remember.
When I get out I throw on running clothes and Goddess is now awake waiting on a belly rub. I wish the Lady of the House a good morning, give her treats, grab the keys and head downstairs for the car.
Typically my radio is at full blast as it was this morning. As soon as it started the lyrics filled my brain.
“I’m wearing my fur pajamas … I ride a hot potato …”
And I smile.
It may as well have been God knocking Saul off of that ass he was riding to turn him into St. Paul. The Talking Heads have always knocked me on my ass and this is my favorite song of theirs.
“Like sitting on pins and needles, things fall apart, it’s scientific …”
Ah, things fall apart. They did for me. It’s a fact of life so we may as well grab hold it and enjoy the hell out of the ride.
And driving to the Breakfast Club at 6:15 in the morning I stop the car in the middle of the road. I look at the stars and listen to the lyrics.
“Piece of mind? Piece of cake,” David Byrne sings.
Yep. I’m getting my piece of mind back.
And I say a prayer.
“Hey God,” I call her by name.
“Thank you. Mine really has been a wild, wild life. More right now than ever! At 54 you’d think that I’d be settling down but you are God after all and knew just the right moment to knock Saul on his ass and turn him into a Saint. I trust you. I have my whole life. I’ve been on my ass a lot lately but am ready to get up. Of course you are God and all so in your time … not mine.”
I think I learned that last line in Seminary.
“And forgive Guy Sayles for talking me into going to Seminary. It really wasn’t his fault. And forgive Bill Berry if you can. And when Conner and I stand before you, I promise you will laugh.”
“We wanna go where we go, where we go, I doing wild wild life,” the song goes.
Present tense I notice as I listen.
“Thanks God,” I finish the prayer. “I need coffee now. And I wouldn’t change this life all that much.”
Goddess is snoring on the floor. I lay there and think thoughts. “Did I dream about Art Linkletter offering me a deal to take over his company because it needs music? Then I called my Dad and Mom who showed up because they love Art Linkletter?”
This is the worst time of living alone in a house that you used to share. But I think of happier thoughts and reach for the pillow on the other side of the bed.
Getting up I stumble into the shower which is full of memories. I stand there with hot water showering on my head and remember.
When I get out I throw on running clothes and Goddess is now awake waiting on a belly rub. I wish the Lady of the House a good morning, give her treats, grab the keys and head downstairs for the car.
Typically my radio is at full blast as it was this morning. As soon as it started the lyrics filled my brain.
“I’m wearing my fur pajamas … I ride a hot potato …”
And I smile.
It may as well have been God knocking Saul off of that ass he was riding to turn him into St. Paul. The Talking Heads have always knocked me on my ass and this is my favorite song of theirs.
“Like sitting on pins and needles, things fall apart, it’s scientific …”
Ah, things fall apart. They did for me. It’s a fact of life so we may as well grab hold it and enjoy the hell out of the ride.
And driving to the Breakfast Club at 6:15 in the morning I stop the car in the middle of the road. I look at the stars and listen to the lyrics.
“Piece of mind? Piece of cake,” David Byrne sings.
Yep. I’m getting my piece of mind back.
And I say a prayer.
“Hey God,” I call her by name.
“Thank you. Mine really has been a wild, wild life. More right now than ever! At 54 you’d think that I’d be settling down but you are God after all and knew just the right moment to knock Saul on his ass and turn him into a Saint. I trust you. I have my whole life. I’ve been on my ass a lot lately but am ready to get up. Of course you are God and all so in your time … not mine.”
I think I learned that last line in Seminary.
“And forgive Guy Sayles for talking me into going to Seminary. It really wasn’t his fault. And forgive Bill Berry if you can. And when Conner and I stand before you, I promise you will laugh.”
“We wanna go where we go, where we go, I doing wild wild life,” the song goes.
Present tense I notice as I listen.
“Thanks God,” I finish the prayer. “I need coffee now. And I wouldn’t change this life all that much.”
Wild Wild Life
My eyes opened in the dark and I stared at the silhouettes of the Palm trees I can see out of the five windows I see from this view in my bed. Turning and stretching I see the shape of the lone red leaf on the tree outside of the other two windows. With seven windows in my bedroom its little wonder that I get up before the sun comes up.
Goddess is snoring on the floor. I lay there and think thoughts. “Did I dream about Art Linkletter offering me a deal to take over his company because it needs music? Then I called my Dad and Mom who showed up because they love Art Linkletter?”
This is the worst time of living alone in a house that you used to share. But I think of happier thoughts and reach for the pillow on the other side of the bed.
Getting up I stumble into the shower which is full of memories. I stand there with hot water showering on my head and remember.
When I get out I throw on running clothes and Goddess is now awake waiting on a belly rub. I wish the Lady of the House a good morning, give her treats, grab the keys and head downstairs for the car.
Typically my radio is at full blast as it was this morning. As soon as it started the lyrics filled my brain.
“I’m wearing my fur pajamas … I ride a hot potato …”
And I smile.
It may as well have been God knocking Saul off of that ass he was riding to turn him into St. Paul. The Talking Heads have always knocked me on my ass and this is my favorite song of theirs.
“Like sitting on pins and needles, things fall apart, it’s scientific …”
Ah, things fall apart. They did for me. It’s a fact of life so we may as well grab hold it and enjoy the hell out of the ride.
And driving to the Breakfast Club at 6:15 in the morning I stop the car in the middle of the road. I look at the stars and listen to the lyrics.
“Piece of mind? Piece of cake,” David Byrne sings.
Yep. I’m getting my piece of mind back.
And I say a prayer.
“Hey God,” I call her by name.
“Thank you. Mine really has been a wild, wild life. More right now than ever! At 54 you’d think that I’d be settling down but you are God after all and knew just the right moment to knock Saul on his ass and turn him into a Saint. I trust you. I have my whole life. I’ve been on my ass a lot lately but am ready to get up. Of course you are God and all so in your time … not mine.”
I think I learned that last line in Seminary.
“And forgive Guy Sayles for talking me into going to Seminary. It really wasn’t his fault. And forgive Bill Berry if you can. And when Conner and I stand before you, I promise you will laugh.”
“We wanna go where we go, where we go, I doing wild wild life,” the song goes.
Present tense I notice as I listen.
“Thanks God,” I finish the prayer. “I need coffee now. And I wouldn’t change this life all that much.”
Goddess is snoring on the floor. I lay there and think thoughts. “Did I dream about Art Linkletter offering me a deal to take over his company because it needs music? Then I called my Dad and Mom who showed up because they love Art Linkletter?”
This is the worst time of living alone in a house that you used to share. But I think of happier thoughts and reach for the pillow on the other side of the bed.
Getting up I stumble into the shower which is full of memories. I stand there with hot water showering on my head and remember.
When I get out I throw on running clothes and Goddess is now awake waiting on a belly rub. I wish the Lady of the House a good morning, give her treats, grab the keys and head downstairs for the car.
Typically my radio is at full blast as it was this morning. As soon as it started the lyrics filled my brain.
“I’m wearing my fur pajamas … I ride a hot potato …”
And I smile.
It may as well have been God knocking Saul off of that ass he was riding to turn him into St. Paul. The Talking Heads have always knocked me on my ass and this is my favorite song of theirs.
“Like sitting on pins and needles, things fall apart, it’s scientific …”
Ah, things fall apart. They did for me. It’s a fact of life so we may as well grab hold it and enjoy the hell out of the ride.
And driving to the Breakfast Club at 6:15 in the morning I stop the car in the middle of the road. I look at the stars and listen to the lyrics.
“Piece of mind? Piece of cake,” David Byrne sings.
Yep. I’m getting my piece of mind back.
And I say a prayer.
“Hey God,” I call her by name.
“Thank you. Mine really has been a wild, wild life. More right now than ever! At 54 you’d think that I’d be settling down but you are God after all and knew just the right moment to knock Saul on his ass and turn him into a Saint. I trust you. I have my whole life. I’ve been on my ass a lot lately but am ready to get up. Of course you are God and all so in your time … not mine.”
I think I learned that last line in Seminary.
“And forgive Guy Sayles for talking me into going to Seminary. It really wasn’t his fault. And forgive Bill Berry if you can. And when Conner and I stand before you, I promise you will laugh.”
“We wanna go where we go, where we go, I doing wild wild life,” the song goes.
Present tense I notice as I listen.
“Thanks God,” I finish the prayer. “I need coffee now. And I wouldn’t change this life all that much.”
Friday, January 7, 2011
The Magnatism of Jesus
It all started with Bill Berry of course (not the former drummer from R.E.M. but the other one who went to Seminary with me). He once took a Bible, cut out the pages in the middle and mailed me a magnet. I suppose he wanted to cover up the fact that it was a magnet that he was mailing me and not some subversive tape, by-products of war, or letters on stationary from God, all of which he had done before!
The Bible industry is better off because of Bill. They are his methods of concealment of choice.
Whenever we are together some adventure occurs. We’ve run into a bus (literally!) with the font end of my car suddenly resembling a tin can. We both agreed that this was an excellent reason to skip Seminary, order pizza and drink beer.
We’ve been thrown out of a Trappist Monastery after entering the forbidden zone because … well, it was forbidden.
We jumped off a British tour bus in Poland with no idea how we would get back to the train station to spend a bitter day in Auschwitz, the concentration camp.
We were once chased by a collection of Turkish whores in Prague late one night. They accosted me first, rubbing my body and asking me things I didn’t understand. Bill stood there laughing until I yelled that he had all of the money and they left me taking off after him. He took off in a sprint and I lay on the cobblestone street laughing in the dark.
In Havana Cuba we spent one night in a Cabrera talking to 1930s burlesque showgirls and it took all eight of our legs and arms to make it back to my hotel room that night where management immediately thought that we were gay and reported us to the Communist government. We were followed around by guys in coats afterwards.
Also in Havana we took public transportation to Figora, Ernest Hemingway’s house because he’s one of my favorite writers. I wore a “Georgia” tee-shirt and this huge man threw his arm around me and told me that his name was George and he was going to be my friend. I sat in his lap during the crowded ride on the “camelback”. Mothers breast fed their children, men held chickens, and this was one happy collection of people. It only costs us 35 cents a piece!
Once we got to Hemingway’s house, it was closed so we had to hitchhike back. A 1940’s pickup truck with the bed absolutely packed with people stopped to pick us up. The cab was also full but the driver made them get in the back to accommodate us and we were driven back to Havana. I had a back pack full of Snickers bars and when I threw them to everyone they cheered and exclaimed with glee.
In Berlin Germany I attacked Bill in a McDonald’s late one night for ordering a fish sandwich because he is a devote vegetarian but he was drunk and had the munchies. I was not going to allow him to blame me for betraying his vegetarianism so as I exited the rest room and saw what he’d done I sprinted across the restaurant and tackled him. “Dumm Esel!” I heard someone say.
I could go on. We’ve done more (Let’s not bring up Myrtle Beach, Nashville or the Southern Baptist Convention).
Anyway I opened the Bible, saw the cut out pages and I retrieved the magnet which was a portrayal of Jesus presenting a pizza to the Apostles.
And I was converted that day. If you come to my house my refrigerator is covered with pictures held up by Jesus magnets. “Please Jesus protect me from your followers,” says a man in a suit talking to the Savior.
“Jesus is coming! Look busy!” proclaims one with Jesus knocking on the door of a church.
“I’ve found Jesus!” proclaims another. “He was behind the sofa the whole time.”
“Stop using Jesus as an excuse for being a narrow minded bigoted ass!” says a favorite.
There are maybe 50 of them covering the white of the fridge. People will come over and spend an hour standing in front of them reading and laughing or … giving me the death stare.
Well. It’s not my fault. It is Bill Berry’s.
And in the middle of my fridge is a magnet of the Prophet Bob Marley which says “Emancipate your self from mental slavery.”
And it seems as I look at them now, 50 versions of Jesus are looking at Bob Marley and smiling.
The Bible industry is better off because of Bill. They are his methods of concealment of choice.
Whenever we are together some adventure occurs. We’ve run into a bus (literally!) with the font end of my car suddenly resembling a tin can. We both agreed that this was an excellent reason to skip Seminary, order pizza and drink beer.
We’ve been thrown out of a Trappist Monastery after entering the forbidden zone because … well, it was forbidden.
We jumped off a British tour bus in Poland with no idea how we would get back to the train station to spend a bitter day in Auschwitz, the concentration camp.
We were once chased by a collection of Turkish whores in Prague late one night. They accosted me first, rubbing my body and asking me things I didn’t understand. Bill stood there laughing until I yelled that he had all of the money and they left me taking off after him. He took off in a sprint and I lay on the cobblestone street laughing in the dark.
In Havana Cuba we spent one night in a Cabrera talking to 1930s burlesque showgirls and it took all eight of our legs and arms to make it back to my hotel room that night where management immediately thought that we were gay and reported us to the Communist government. We were followed around by guys in coats afterwards.
Also in Havana we took public transportation to Figora, Ernest Hemingway’s house because he’s one of my favorite writers. I wore a “Georgia” tee-shirt and this huge man threw his arm around me and told me that his name was George and he was going to be my friend. I sat in his lap during the crowded ride on the “camelback”. Mothers breast fed their children, men held chickens, and this was one happy collection of people. It only costs us 35 cents a piece!
Once we got to Hemingway’s house, it was closed so we had to hitchhike back. A 1940’s pickup truck with the bed absolutely packed with people stopped to pick us up. The cab was also full but the driver made them get in the back to accommodate us and we were driven back to Havana. I had a back pack full of Snickers bars and when I threw them to everyone they cheered and exclaimed with glee.
In Berlin Germany I attacked Bill in a McDonald’s late one night for ordering a fish sandwich because he is a devote vegetarian but he was drunk and had the munchies. I was not going to allow him to blame me for betraying his vegetarianism so as I exited the rest room and saw what he’d done I sprinted across the restaurant and tackled him. “Dumm Esel!” I heard someone say.
I could go on. We’ve done more (Let’s not bring up Myrtle Beach, Nashville or the Southern Baptist Convention).
Anyway I opened the Bible, saw the cut out pages and I retrieved the magnet which was a portrayal of Jesus presenting a pizza to the Apostles.
And I was converted that day. If you come to my house my refrigerator is covered with pictures held up by Jesus magnets. “Please Jesus protect me from your followers,” says a man in a suit talking to the Savior.
“Jesus is coming! Look busy!” proclaims one with Jesus knocking on the door of a church.
“I’ve found Jesus!” proclaims another. “He was behind the sofa the whole time.”
“Stop using Jesus as an excuse for being a narrow minded bigoted ass!” says a favorite.
There are maybe 50 of them covering the white of the fridge. People will come over and spend an hour standing in front of them reading and laughing or … giving me the death stare.
Well. It’s not my fault. It is Bill Berry’s.
And in the middle of my fridge is a magnet of the Prophet Bob Marley which says “Emancipate your self from mental slavery.”
And it seems as I look at them now, 50 versions of Jesus are looking at Bob Marley and smiling.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
The Faith of Dinosaurs
A few short years ago I was sitting in Bob Colvin’s office at Memorial Health Medical Center, Savannah’s safety net hospital and strategic ally to Union Mission. He sat in the power chair that he liked and I had my feet propped on the coffee table.
Over the previous decade we had done some amazing things together along with Peter Doliber at the hospital and Kelly McDaniel back at Union Mission.
We had pioneered the respite care movement, demonstrated significant cost savings formulas by establishing alternatives to Emergency room treatment and hospitalization, and crafted the redirection of an entire chronic needs population (homeless people) from a hospital to a community setting like Union Mission.
No one had ever done these things before (sorry Jim O’Connel, you are still the gold standard but we did all of these things first!) and had won a lot of awards because of it. Our relationship and our organization’s partnership had surpassed a decade.
“You know what Mike,” he said.
I shrugged my shoulders.
“I feel like a dinosaur. No body stays at a hospital for twelve years. All of my friends tell me that I’m nuts to still be here.”
His eyes looked weary. Taking my feet off of the coffee table I leaned forward to respond.
“You” I said? “Try 20 years in the front lines of homelessness. The average tenure is two-and-a-half years. Add what I did before and it’s almost 30 years.”
“Yeah but it’s just a homeless shelter.”
Bob knew how to get me going. I busted out laughing and we both agreed to go out for beers soon to talk about the dinosaur landscape.
Not long after that Bob left the hospital. We remain friends and in touch though I will never comprehend why he returned to his home state of Idaho to live across the gorge from the guy that played Horshack on “Welcome Back Kotter”.
I lasted another three years and then “the time of Middle Earth had passed” and a new breed came who were different from the dinosaurs that we were. They believe in short term fixes and not long term results.
One of the things that I learned through my career is that if you believe in something you stick with it. It may fail but you learn from the failures and keep at it until you succeed. Perseverance and faith breed success.
Success came early for me at Union Mission. Grace House, the Magdalene Project and Phoenix Place were all built in the first three years that I was there.
Then it got harder. The Employment & Training Center took five years. Expanding Phoenix Place took five too (at the same time though). The J. C. Lewis Health Center took four after that. The Ben & Bettye Barnes Center was a gift from nuns that we used HUD money on because the relationships we had with government allowed us to suspend the rules for how to spend it. The Behavioral Health Center took seven years. Dutch Town took five years too.
Somewhere in there we sold Potter’s Place, closed the Hacienda, and birthed and killed many Sacred Cows along the way.
It was with alarm that I read of Memorial’s decision to replace Phillip Schaengold as Bob’s replacement. He’s been there less than two years. It’s hard to do much anything in two years.
But the days of Middle Earth have passed. Everybody wants perfection now without the hard work that it takes to get there. Small minded people want debts retired immediately and it doesn’t matter what that cost to the greater good or the smaller satisfactions of life. Instant gratification rules!
But I choose to remain a dinosaur. A feisty one who will relentlessly pursue what he has faith in, but a dinosaur nevertheless.
Over the previous decade we had done some amazing things together along with Peter Doliber at the hospital and Kelly McDaniel back at Union Mission.
We had pioneered the respite care movement, demonstrated significant cost savings formulas by establishing alternatives to Emergency room treatment and hospitalization, and crafted the redirection of an entire chronic needs population (homeless people) from a hospital to a community setting like Union Mission.
No one had ever done these things before (sorry Jim O’Connel, you are still the gold standard but we did all of these things first!) and had won a lot of awards because of it. Our relationship and our organization’s partnership had surpassed a decade.
“You know what Mike,” he said.
I shrugged my shoulders.
“I feel like a dinosaur. No body stays at a hospital for twelve years. All of my friends tell me that I’m nuts to still be here.”
His eyes looked weary. Taking my feet off of the coffee table I leaned forward to respond.
“You” I said? “Try 20 years in the front lines of homelessness. The average tenure is two-and-a-half years. Add what I did before and it’s almost 30 years.”
“Yeah but it’s just a homeless shelter.”
Bob knew how to get me going. I busted out laughing and we both agreed to go out for beers soon to talk about the dinosaur landscape.
Not long after that Bob left the hospital. We remain friends and in touch though I will never comprehend why he returned to his home state of Idaho to live across the gorge from the guy that played Horshack on “Welcome Back Kotter”.
I lasted another three years and then “the time of Middle Earth had passed” and a new breed came who were different from the dinosaurs that we were. They believe in short term fixes and not long term results.
One of the things that I learned through my career is that if you believe in something you stick with it. It may fail but you learn from the failures and keep at it until you succeed. Perseverance and faith breed success.
Success came early for me at Union Mission. Grace House, the Magdalene Project and Phoenix Place were all built in the first three years that I was there.
Then it got harder. The Employment & Training Center took five years. Expanding Phoenix Place took five too (at the same time though). The J. C. Lewis Health Center took four after that. The Ben & Bettye Barnes Center was a gift from nuns that we used HUD money on because the relationships we had with government allowed us to suspend the rules for how to spend it. The Behavioral Health Center took seven years. Dutch Town took five years too.
Somewhere in there we sold Potter’s Place, closed the Hacienda, and birthed and killed many Sacred Cows along the way.
It was with alarm that I read of Memorial’s decision to replace Phillip Schaengold as Bob’s replacement. He’s been there less than two years. It’s hard to do much anything in two years.
But the days of Middle Earth have passed. Everybody wants perfection now without the hard work that it takes to get there. Small minded people want debts retired immediately and it doesn’t matter what that cost to the greater good or the smaller satisfactions of life. Instant gratification rules!
But I choose to remain a dinosaur. A feisty one who will relentlessly pursue what he has faith in, but a dinosaur nevertheless.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
The Balance of Power
Sitting in the offices of the Orlando Free Dental Clinic Bob, the Director was getting mad. A federal auditor was getting on to him because his outcomes were not pure. The grant that supported a large part of the program only allowed people meeting certain demographic requirements to be served. Bob and his staff had this notion that anybody needing dental care could come.
The federal auditor would have none of it. Rules are rules. She kept demanding proof of outcomes.
“You want outcomes,” Bob spit standing up, “I’ll show you outcomes!”
And he left the room. When he returned he carried this very large jar. He turned it upside down in front of the auditor’s chair and hundreds upon hundreds of extracted teeth showered around her feet.
“There’s your outcomes”!
He was making a powerful point. The shower of teeth represented the real pain and agony of people who may or may not have fit the guidelines. The pain was as much for those who did as for those who didn’t. Shepherd’s Hope, the clinic refused to discriminate even though the federal government paid them to do so.
When you boil my belief system down I believe in Liberation Theology, a belief that God sides with the poor and if we want to hang around God then we need to hang around the poor. It is a theology of the streets.
It doesn’t trust institutions. Any institution --- governments, banks, churches, Synagogues, or much anything else! The reason is institutions exist to perpetuate themselves above anything else. Continued existence of one means more than anybody or anything … including God, justice, charity, and family.
It is a balancing trick to be part of an institution that you know you can never really trust. There is always this tension of doing everything for the sake of the place while keeping one foot over the line. That’s what Bob did when the Shepherd’s Place served people in pain regardless of rules.
Sure, you can’t do everything for everybody. But you can try. Pushing institutions and organizations to do more than they are capable of keeps them honest. Once they become status quo, then the Bank, Church or government exists for itself at the expense of others.
Several years later Bob was at Union Mission with the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation doing a site visit for a grant we had submitted. The grant was for $500,000 to help start the J. C. Lewis Health Center. The meeting had gone well and we were feeling pretty good our prospects.
Towards the end Bob asked, “Have you thought about adding a Dental component? Oral health ranks sixth in why people go to hospital emergency rooms. They can’t afford a Dentist so …what do they do?”
It had never dawned on us. Besides we were already trying to do something incredibly ambitious.
Then Bob the story of showering the auditor’s shower of extracted teeth.
So in the course of a couple of weeks we amended our application to include oral health. Today it is the Peter Brassler Dental Clinic, this area’s only oral health center for the working poor, uninsured and homeless.
I’m no longer part of any of that but I still worry about it becoming too much of an institution that merely adheres to government rules or Income Performa or being content to do what they can without pushing themselves. Pain is pain after all.
Congress returns to session today as though any of us really need that to happen. We all have to be careful in how we approach our work and our beliefs in institutions that we belong; that we do our very best to prevent them from becoming like Congress where everyone works hard to keep it like it is.
The federal auditor would have none of it. Rules are rules. She kept demanding proof of outcomes.
“You want outcomes,” Bob spit standing up, “I’ll show you outcomes!”
And he left the room. When he returned he carried this very large jar. He turned it upside down in front of the auditor’s chair and hundreds upon hundreds of extracted teeth showered around her feet.
“There’s your outcomes”!
He was making a powerful point. The shower of teeth represented the real pain and agony of people who may or may not have fit the guidelines. The pain was as much for those who did as for those who didn’t. Shepherd’s Hope, the clinic refused to discriminate even though the federal government paid them to do so.
When you boil my belief system down I believe in Liberation Theology, a belief that God sides with the poor and if we want to hang around God then we need to hang around the poor. It is a theology of the streets.
It doesn’t trust institutions. Any institution --- governments, banks, churches, Synagogues, or much anything else! The reason is institutions exist to perpetuate themselves above anything else. Continued existence of one means more than anybody or anything … including God, justice, charity, and family.
It is a balancing trick to be part of an institution that you know you can never really trust. There is always this tension of doing everything for the sake of the place while keeping one foot over the line. That’s what Bob did when the Shepherd’s Place served people in pain regardless of rules.
Sure, you can’t do everything for everybody. But you can try. Pushing institutions and organizations to do more than they are capable of keeps them honest. Once they become status quo, then the Bank, Church or government exists for itself at the expense of others.
Several years later Bob was at Union Mission with the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation doing a site visit for a grant we had submitted. The grant was for $500,000 to help start the J. C. Lewis Health Center. The meeting had gone well and we were feeling pretty good our prospects.
Towards the end Bob asked, “Have you thought about adding a Dental component? Oral health ranks sixth in why people go to hospital emergency rooms. They can’t afford a Dentist so …what do they do?”
It had never dawned on us. Besides we were already trying to do something incredibly ambitious.
Then Bob the story of showering the auditor’s shower of extracted teeth.
So in the course of a couple of weeks we amended our application to include oral health. Today it is the Peter Brassler Dental Clinic, this area’s only oral health center for the working poor, uninsured and homeless.
I’m no longer part of any of that but I still worry about it becoming too much of an institution that merely adheres to government rules or Income Performa or being content to do what they can without pushing themselves. Pain is pain after all.
Congress returns to session today as though any of us really need that to happen. We all have to be careful in how we approach our work and our beliefs in institutions that we belong; that we do our very best to prevent them from becoming like Congress where everyone works hard to keep it like it is.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
The Suddenly Compact Universe
On the 11th day of Christmas, or the 3rd day of January depending on your religious persuasion, I sit alone in my kitchen staring at the reflection of the lights on the sliding glass doors of the Christmas tree that I haven’t set on fire yet.
If eleven Pipers are piping I don’t hear them yet. If I do I will call the Tybee Island Police Department who will tase them as the Tybee Island Police Department is prone to do and then there would likely be flutes, burnt grass and stuff cluttering the yard.
If 12 Drummers drumming show up tomorrow I now have a rocket launcher and will take them all out at once.
“Your writing has been so sad,” I was written.
Duh!
You live through your first Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s by yourself and let me know if you don’t get sad.
I have friends who have lost their husbands or wives over the past few years and the holidays will never be the same to them again …at least not in the same way.
Perhaps they will find new love or someone to fill the void and once again the Kingdom will come on earth as it is in heaven.
Or perhaps it won’t.
Tonight it won’t.
It’s funny when you are married or in a deep relationship and you live together how much you enjoy having the house to yourself. You watch whatever you want on television, use all of the hot water in the bath, quietly sit and read or pee off of the porch if you want. You relish these times because your husband, wife, significant other or kids take it all which is most of the time.
So when you get the time alone in your own place …well…what a luxurious gift.
Then the one you love dies, leaves, can’t be there or the kids grow up and leave or some combination of all of the above. Or because the one you love has to be somewhere else.
And you get it all to yourself. The whole place is yours and you can keep the television channel on whatever you want all of the time. Or not at all!
Cook or go out becomes life’s most interesting question.
But when no one is coming, and you know that no one is coming, you either embrace that or you don’t. You curse who left or died or can’t be there or you love them in a whole different way; a way that doesn’t need words or touch or “the suddenly compact universe of skin and teeth and hair.”
And the house is filled with memories or loneliness or both.
So there is one more day of Christmas according to the old carol. Most people have already stored it away until next year anyway. And God damn those twelve drummers drumming if they show up.
Unless…
That is what love sounds like.
If eleven Pipers are piping I don’t hear them yet. If I do I will call the Tybee Island Police Department who will tase them as the Tybee Island Police Department is prone to do and then there would likely be flutes, burnt grass and stuff cluttering the yard.
If 12 Drummers drumming show up tomorrow I now have a rocket launcher and will take them all out at once.
“Your writing has been so sad,” I was written.
Duh!
You live through your first Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s by yourself and let me know if you don’t get sad.
I have friends who have lost their husbands or wives over the past few years and the holidays will never be the same to them again …at least not in the same way.
Perhaps they will find new love or someone to fill the void and once again the Kingdom will come on earth as it is in heaven.
Or perhaps it won’t.
Tonight it won’t.
It’s funny when you are married or in a deep relationship and you live together how much you enjoy having the house to yourself. You watch whatever you want on television, use all of the hot water in the bath, quietly sit and read or pee off of the porch if you want. You relish these times because your husband, wife, significant other or kids take it all which is most of the time.
So when you get the time alone in your own place …well…what a luxurious gift.
Then the one you love dies, leaves, can’t be there or the kids grow up and leave or some combination of all of the above. Or because the one you love has to be somewhere else.
And you get it all to yourself. The whole place is yours and you can keep the television channel on whatever you want all of the time. Or not at all!
Cook or go out becomes life’s most interesting question.
But when no one is coming, and you know that no one is coming, you either embrace that or you don’t. You curse who left or died or can’t be there or you love them in a whole different way; a way that doesn’t need words or touch or “the suddenly compact universe of skin and teeth and hair.”
And the house is filled with memories or loneliness or both.
So there is one more day of Christmas according to the old carol. Most people have already stored it away until next year anyway. And God damn those twelve drummers drumming if they show up.
Unless…
That is what love sounds like.
Monday, January 3, 2011
God's Golden Sidewalk
The beach is scattered with Christmas trees lying there naked and unadorned in the sand. Some are at the ocean’s edge while others were thrown in the sand dunes. Some have tinsel hanging from them as the last remnants of what they used to be. None stand any more but are on their sides, a sad testament to the “glad tidings of comfort and cheer” that they represented.
The idea is that the sand will engulf them as it blows against their branches building up the dunes and creating a tiny beach refurbishment effort.
I run between them looking at the train that the sun has painted on sea, a golden sidewalk that ends at my feet. It’s as if I believed that I could walk on water then God is surely inviting me to do so. Take a left run on the blazing yellow water and straight into the eye of God.
For years I loved morning runs with sunrises that lead to the golden sidewalk. There were times when I would just stop and stand there staring at its brilliance, trying to discern the messages that were being sent.
“What God? Am I doing the right stuff and this is affirmation? Or am I really screwing up and you’re inviting to just run away from it all? You want to demonstrate that I’m in over my head when I submerge?”
There have been a few times when I was “Running with the Dolphins” and they would hit God’s golden sidewalk and leap into the air; straight up and then return in the exact same hole in the water that they made when they jumped towards the heaven. It took my breath away and I remember just staring with my hands on my knees, breathing hard and saying the most holiest of prayers.
Oh My God!
I am struck by the contrast of the discarded symbols of peace on earth and goodwill towards men and God’s golden sidewalk on the water. I leap over one of the trees that are in front of me as I run. What was an invitation a few days ago is now an obstacle.
All of those years working with homeless people, the sick, the uninsured and the addicted led to this cynicism about the holiday season. From Thanksgiving to Christmas Day it seemed like everyone in the world cared. They came, they gave and they loved.
The day after Christmas was another story.
And the shelters were filled with manger scenes, plastic Santa’s and trees that had been delivered with fanfare and promises of Joy to the World. But there was no longer any joy. Everyone had left. Except the same broken people who had been there before the Spirit caught everyone up (which evidently last for about a month before the Spirit lets them all down again).
The discarded trees make me think these thoughts.
Then I look at the golden sidewalk again and wonder if it is God’s way of still extending the invitation while everybody else is getting rid of Christmas until next year. Is this an invitation to walk on the water and demonstrate that, if we want, miracles can occur all year long?
These are funny thoughts to have on a morning run.
“Happier New Year,” a friend of mine wished my yesterday. It is someone that I haven’t talked to in some time. I appreciated the way she said it though. “Happier New Year” acknowledges that the last one wasn’t so great.
So here I am running into a new year, jumping over the discarded remnants of the past, leaping towards the sky and new love, wondering if I have what it takes to say, “Damn it all! I’m taking a left and going to do my best to make it to the eye of God before I sink”!
It’s only water.
The worst that can happen is I get baptized.
By God.
The idea is that the sand will engulf them as it blows against their branches building up the dunes and creating a tiny beach refurbishment effort.
I run between them looking at the train that the sun has painted on sea, a golden sidewalk that ends at my feet. It’s as if I believed that I could walk on water then God is surely inviting me to do so. Take a left run on the blazing yellow water and straight into the eye of God.
For years I loved morning runs with sunrises that lead to the golden sidewalk. There were times when I would just stop and stand there staring at its brilliance, trying to discern the messages that were being sent.
“What God? Am I doing the right stuff and this is affirmation? Or am I really screwing up and you’re inviting to just run away from it all? You want to demonstrate that I’m in over my head when I submerge?”
There have been a few times when I was “Running with the Dolphins” and they would hit God’s golden sidewalk and leap into the air; straight up and then return in the exact same hole in the water that they made when they jumped towards the heaven. It took my breath away and I remember just staring with my hands on my knees, breathing hard and saying the most holiest of prayers.
Oh My God!
I am struck by the contrast of the discarded symbols of peace on earth and goodwill towards men and God’s golden sidewalk on the water. I leap over one of the trees that are in front of me as I run. What was an invitation a few days ago is now an obstacle.
All of those years working with homeless people, the sick, the uninsured and the addicted led to this cynicism about the holiday season. From Thanksgiving to Christmas Day it seemed like everyone in the world cared. They came, they gave and they loved.
The day after Christmas was another story.
And the shelters were filled with manger scenes, plastic Santa’s and trees that had been delivered with fanfare and promises of Joy to the World. But there was no longer any joy. Everyone had left. Except the same broken people who had been there before the Spirit caught everyone up (which evidently last for about a month before the Spirit lets them all down again).
The discarded trees make me think these thoughts.
Then I look at the golden sidewalk again and wonder if it is God’s way of still extending the invitation while everybody else is getting rid of Christmas until next year. Is this an invitation to walk on the water and demonstrate that, if we want, miracles can occur all year long?
These are funny thoughts to have on a morning run.
“Happier New Year,” a friend of mine wished my yesterday. It is someone that I haven’t talked to in some time. I appreciated the way she said it though. “Happier New Year” acknowledges that the last one wasn’t so great.
So here I am running into a new year, jumping over the discarded remnants of the past, leaping towards the sky and new love, wondering if I have what it takes to say, “Damn it all! I’m taking a left and going to do my best to make it to the eye of God before I sink”!
It’s only water.
The worst that can happen is I get baptized.
By God.
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Dreaming
I am standing on Orient Beach with my feet in the aqua blue surf, staring at the waves lapping the reef, and the ear buds to my I-pod are blasting Michael Franti and Spearhead was blasting into my brain. “That’s the sound of the sunshine coming down.”
I am thinking hard thoughts.
Having just spent my first Christmas alone I’d moved on to dreading New Year’s. Thanksgiving had been rough, Christmas was pure agony and now because of passport issues I’d be home in time for New Year’s. I wanted to continue the diversion of the tropics until I was well into 2011.
Besides that I had a tremendous number of things to accomplish when I return, it would be winter, and there is a Christmas tree full of hanging pieces of sadness that I must contend with. I will be on the road a lot and travel alone is alright but homecomings are difficult because there is no one waiting. Goddess will flip over for a belly rub but that is exciting as it gets.
Someone stands beside me and I turn to see Hyler talking to me. I pull the buds from my ears.
“What did you say?”
“I was saying that you’re not focused enough,” he replied looking at me with sadness.
He is one of the most interesting people that I’ve ever met. He used to race cars. One time he opted not to wear the fire resistant suit and sure enough had a wreck and the car burst into flames. His body is badly scared from the fire.
It doesn’t bother him. He is standing beside me on the beach working on his tan just like I am. He became a wildly successful consultant and very popular motivational speaker earning $15,000 a speech. He had told me this the previous day and when he did I exclaimed, “YOU GET $15,000 A SPEECH?”
He held his arms up to the sky and immediately answered, “With a body like this? Of course I do.”
It would very hard not to like Hyler.
“What do you mean I’m not focused enough?” I spit back.
He is always calm, speaking in very measured words. “You stand here and daydream and dance. You get lost in your own world and you don’t mind being there. You just don’t have what it takes to be a successful speaker and consultant. You should go back to doing what you’re good at.”
Competitive juices were unleashed in my veins and my chest stuck out. I turned to face him head on.
“What’s the biggest number of standing ovations you ever got,” I immediately fire.
“Three,” he begins but I stop him before he can finish.
“I got seven in front of 7000. How big was your crowd?” I rapid fire back before he can shoot.
Hyler smiles and takes a step backwards putting a shriveled hand on my shoulder. “What’s your elevator speech?” he asks as calmly and sympathetically as anyone possibly could.
“I turned a $40,000 a year homeless shelter into a $13 Million company with a very diverse portfolio. I can help you do that too. Regardless of what your business is”!
Hyler’s mouth never quite closes so his teeth are almost always visible. But when he chooses to smile you can tell. He smiled and the withered hand patted my shoulder.
“That’s pretty good,” he said, “but you’ve got to stop all of this dreaming.”
It is my turn to pause and stare a second. I think about one of the rules of speaking which is to create pregnant pauses so that the audience is waiting on whatever it is you’re going to say next. Martin Luther King, Jr. was perhaps the best at it and I’ve spent hours watching him do it though he was long dead and seated at the right hand of God when I did.
He waits. I let the moment linger.
“Hyler,” I finally say when I can see that he is getting ready to say something to break what is becoming an uncomfortable silence, ‘just how in the hell do you turn a $40,000 a year homeless shelter into a $13 Million company without …dreaming.”
He laughs.
I win.
I am thinking hard thoughts.
Having just spent my first Christmas alone I’d moved on to dreading New Year’s. Thanksgiving had been rough, Christmas was pure agony and now because of passport issues I’d be home in time for New Year’s. I wanted to continue the diversion of the tropics until I was well into 2011.
Besides that I had a tremendous number of things to accomplish when I return, it would be winter, and there is a Christmas tree full of hanging pieces of sadness that I must contend with. I will be on the road a lot and travel alone is alright but homecomings are difficult because there is no one waiting. Goddess will flip over for a belly rub but that is exciting as it gets.
Someone stands beside me and I turn to see Hyler talking to me. I pull the buds from my ears.
“What did you say?”
“I was saying that you’re not focused enough,” he replied looking at me with sadness.
He is one of the most interesting people that I’ve ever met. He used to race cars. One time he opted not to wear the fire resistant suit and sure enough had a wreck and the car burst into flames. His body is badly scared from the fire.
It doesn’t bother him. He is standing beside me on the beach working on his tan just like I am. He became a wildly successful consultant and very popular motivational speaker earning $15,000 a speech. He had told me this the previous day and when he did I exclaimed, “YOU GET $15,000 A SPEECH?”
He held his arms up to the sky and immediately answered, “With a body like this? Of course I do.”
It would very hard not to like Hyler.
“What do you mean I’m not focused enough?” I spit back.
He is always calm, speaking in very measured words. “You stand here and daydream and dance. You get lost in your own world and you don’t mind being there. You just don’t have what it takes to be a successful speaker and consultant. You should go back to doing what you’re good at.”
Competitive juices were unleashed in my veins and my chest stuck out. I turned to face him head on.
“What’s the biggest number of standing ovations you ever got,” I immediately fire.
“Three,” he begins but I stop him before he can finish.
“I got seven in front of 7000. How big was your crowd?” I rapid fire back before he can shoot.
Hyler smiles and takes a step backwards putting a shriveled hand on my shoulder. “What’s your elevator speech?” he asks as calmly and sympathetically as anyone possibly could.
“I turned a $40,000 a year homeless shelter into a $13 Million company with a very diverse portfolio. I can help you do that too. Regardless of what your business is”!
Hyler’s mouth never quite closes so his teeth are almost always visible. But when he chooses to smile you can tell. He smiled and the withered hand patted my shoulder.
“That’s pretty good,” he said, “but you’ve got to stop all of this dreaming.”
It is my turn to pause and stare a second. I think about one of the rules of speaking which is to create pregnant pauses so that the audience is waiting on whatever it is you’re going to say next. Martin Luther King, Jr. was perhaps the best at it and I’ve spent hours watching him do it though he was long dead and seated at the right hand of God when I did.
He waits. I let the moment linger.
“Hyler,” I finally say when I can see that he is getting ready to say something to break what is becoming an uncomfortable silence, ‘just how in the hell do you turn a $40,000 a year homeless shelter into a $13 Million company without …dreaming.”
He laughs.
I win.
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Happy New... Whatev's
Goddess is licking my face which is on the corner of the bed. It is way past time that I’m normally up and taking her for a walk.
“Happy New Year Pup,” I say.
She licks my face again.
I throw a pillow at her. She takes this as a sign to play and jumps into bed, tail a wagging, licking my face.
Stumbling to the shower I fall in.
“Goddess” I scream! “Turn the radio down!”
She ignores me. She can be such a bitch sometimes.
I fix coffee and pour the first cup over my head. I drink the second.
I turn on the computer and my dear friend Stacy wishes me a Happy New Year. Damn Stacy instant messages loudly!
Then my friend Dedra sends me a text and it’s even louder!
Sitting on the beloved back deck, Dean who runs the pier has a band playing or something. While the pier is about six blocks away, IT IS LOUD!
Wow. It hurt to type that.
If I had a rocket launcher Tybee Island would no longer have a pier.
OK. Happy New Year everyone!
It’s not a bad way to start. Thank God the last one is over.
My friend Claude in Louisville just to have this theory that years ending in even numbers were bad years and those ending in odd numbers were good. Of course he was from Louisiana and went to L. S.U. (which stands for “Let’s sober up” he once explained).
OK. I’m back.
I just enrolled in L.S.U.
The band on the pier is playing “Twist and Shout.”
I think that I can twist and fall down.
This is my first New Year’s Day in the United States in a long time. I now remember why I spend them in St. Martin.
Several years ago, in St. Martin I was dancing the night away when the band stopped in the middle of a song. The singer screamed “It’s time!”
Except he did it in French and I didn’t understand him. But the crowd rushed outside to the beach and I followed. Then fireworks blasted overhead. Then the remnants of fireworks fell down on our heads.
I looked over at my friend Nancy, a waitress at Papaguyo and she was crying.
“What’s wrong?” I asked her.
“Oh Micheal,” she said in broken English with a French accent, “I am pregnant!”
“I can prove where I was and who I was with,” I reply.
She looks at me trying to understand relationships in the United States.
Then I lean over and kiss her stomach.
“God bless your baby,” I say.
She hugs me and then we run back inside from the falling remnants of fireworks.
What a funny thing to remember this morning.
What a lovely thing to remember this morning.
This is a year of new things for me. The old has passed away. I wished it well last night. And today things look good as I sit on the beloved back deck, with Goddess asleep at my feet, wearing shorts and no underwear and no shoes.
Wait a minute.
I had underwear last night.
“Happy New Year Pup,” I say.
She licks my face again.
I throw a pillow at her. She takes this as a sign to play and jumps into bed, tail a wagging, licking my face.
Stumbling to the shower I fall in.
“Goddess” I scream! “Turn the radio down!”
She ignores me. She can be such a bitch sometimes.
I fix coffee and pour the first cup over my head. I drink the second.
I turn on the computer and my dear friend Stacy wishes me a Happy New Year. Damn Stacy instant messages loudly!
Then my friend Dedra sends me a text and it’s even louder!
Sitting on the beloved back deck, Dean who runs the pier has a band playing or something. While the pier is about six blocks away, IT IS LOUD!
Wow. It hurt to type that.
If I had a rocket launcher Tybee Island would no longer have a pier.
OK. Happy New Year everyone!
It’s not a bad way to start. Thank God the last one is over.
My friend Claude in Louisville just to have this theory that years ending in even numbers were bad years and those ending in odd numbers were good. Of course he was from Louisiana and went to L. S.U. (which stands for “Let’s sober up” he once explained).
OK. I’m back.
I just enrolled in L.S.U.
The band on the pier is playing “Twist and Shout.”
I think that I can twist and fall down.
This is my first New Year’s Day in the United States in a long time. I now remember why I spend them in St. Martin.
Several years ago, in St. Martin I was dancing the night away when the band stopped in the middle of a song. The singer screamed “It’s time!”
Except he did it in French and I didn’t understand him. But the crowd rushed outside to the beach and I followed. Then fireworks blasted overhead. Then the remnants of fireworks fell down on our heads.
I looked over at my friend Nancy, a waitress at Papaguyo and she was crying.
“What’s wrong?” I asked her.
“Oh Micheal,” she said in broken English with a French accent, “I am pregnant!”
“I can prove where I was and who I was with,” I reply.
She looks at me trying to understand relationships in the United States.
Then I lean over and kiss her stomach.
“God bless your baby,” I say.
She hugs me and then we run back inside from the falling remnants of fireworks.
What a funny thing to remember this morning.
What a lovely thing to remember this morning.
This is a year of new things for me. The old has passed away. I wished it well last night. And today things look good as I sit on the beloved back deck, with Goddess asleep at my feet, wearing shorts and no underwear and no shoes.
Wait a minute.
I had underwear last night.
Friday, December 31, 2010
Any Excuse for a Party
I am contemplating having a party and setting my Christmas tree on fire.
Alone last night I sat staring at it sitting on the floor with my arm around Goddess. She is asleep. The television is on but I’m not paying it any attention.
There will be a few ornaments that I will keep. The angel that sits atop the tree is one Chelsea made for me when she was a little girl; the Snoopy sitting on top of Frosty that I made when I was a little boy. A Celtic cross, a Tasmanian thing Shirley gave me, my Grandfather tie made into an ornament by one of my aunts … these are the ones I will keep.
The rest are all hanging pieces of sadness; relics from another time when they represented togetherness, a house full of good cheer, and the promise of better things in the New Year.
I think taking the Christmas tree outside still decorated, with some friends over and setting it on fire would be a pretty good way to put all of that behind me. Only a third of the lights work anyway.
It’s an artificial tree so I suppose that lighter fluid will be involved.
It will take longer to burn so my friends can toast, drink and sing songs around the damn thing if they wanted to.
Maybe I could get my friend Chuck Courtenay or Sam Adams and Gordon to perform from the beloved back deck while the rest of us stand in the back yard watching it burn.
“Oh Tannenbaum” or “Come on Baby Light my Fire!”
Of course Tybee Island has more government than it’s ever had before and parts of the island now resemble a police state. I suppose a permit will be involved.
Shirley is my friend, neighbor, Mayor Pro-tem of the Island, actually in charge of most of Chatham County anyway and would of course be at the party. I have complete confidence in her abilities to secure the permit.
If not though I’ll invite Dr. Ricky Temple pastor of Overcoming By Faith Church and we’ll just tell the Tybee Island Fire Department that we are conducting a religious service and they have no jurisdiction over God’s burning bushes.
Come to think of it, April my friend runs the Fire Department and she and her husband James will of course be at the party singing around my burning Christmas tree. She can handle permit thing.
So I think that I am on to something. Today is my Mom’s birthday and that would be a great surprise for her!
So it is New Year’s Eve too. Whitley and I have already agreed to allow our bicycles to get drunk. Johnny O and Judy are meeting me later. Roma appears to have survived death again. At the Breakfast Club this morning, I sat in the back room leaning against Nancee, talking to Val, about these things.
But if you are going to go through Christmas and New Year’s alone for the first time in your life …
To hell with!
Any excuse for a party!!
Especially a good excuse!!!
Like little pieces of sadness hanging from the branches of a broken family tree.
Alone last night I sat staring at it sitting on the floor with my arm around Goddess. She is asleep. The television is on but I’m not paying it any attention.
There will be a few ornaments that I will keep. The angel that sits atop the tree is one Chelsea made for me when she was a little girl; the Snoopy sitting on top of Frosty that I made when I was a little boy. A Celtic cross, a Tasmanian thing Shirley gave me, my Grandfather tie made into an ornament by one of my aunts … these are the ones I will keep.
The rest are all hanging pieces of sadness; relics from another time when they represented togetherness, a house full of good cheer, and the promise of better things in the New Year.
I think taking the Christmas tree outside still decorated, with some friends over and setting it on fire would be a pretty good way to put all of that behind me. Only a third of the lights work anyway.
It’s an artificial tree so I suppose that lighter fluid will be involved.
It will take longer to burn so my friends can toast, drink and sing songs around the damn thing if they wanted to.
Maybe I could get my friend Chuck Courtenay or Sam Adams and Gordon to perform from the beloved back deck while the rest of us stand in the back yard watching it burn.
“Oh Tannenbaum” or “Come on Baby Light my Fire!”
Of course Tybee Island has more government than it’s ever had before and parts of the island now resemble a police state. I suppose a permit will be involved.
Shirley is my friend, neighbor, Mayor Pro-tem of the Island, actually in charge of most of Chatham County anyway and would of course be at the party. I have complete confidence in her abilities to secure the permit.
If not though I’ll invite Dr. Ricky Temple pastor of Overcoming By Faith Church and we’ll just tell the Tybee Island Fire Department that we are conducting a religious service and they have no jurisdiction over God’s burning bushes.
Come to think of it, April my friend runs the Fire Department and she and her husband James will of course be at the party singing around my burning Christmas tree. She can handle permit thing.
So I think that I am on to something. Today is my Mom’s birthday and that would be a great surprise for her!
So it is New Year’s Eve too. Whitley and I have already agreed to allow our bicycles to get drunk. Johnny O and Judy are meeting me later. Roma appears to have survived death again. At the Breakfast Club this morning, I sat in the back room leaning against Nancee, talking to Val, about these things.
But if you are going to go through Christmas and New Year’s alone for the first time in your life …
To hell with!
Any excuse for a party!!
Especially a good excuse!!!
Like little pieces of sadness hanging from the branches of a broken family tree.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Getting Ready
So I am sitting next to Dr. Ricky Temple in first class on a Delta flight from Atlanta to Savannah. We go back a bit. He built “Overcoming-By-Faith Church across the street from Dutch Town, a 40 something apartment complex for homeless people, and we hit it off from the first time we met at the Starfish Cafe.
I’m not quite certain what faith actually overcame in the naming of his church but Ricky is charismatic as hell, which he would likely not appreciate me saying. I want to order him a glass of wine to see is he can turn it into water. That would be impressive. I have a lot of faith in him.
He prayed the blessing at the dedication ceremony for the Dutch Town and said a lot of nice things about me. I’ve toured his church empire which took like a week. We laughed a lot during that time.
I am surprised that he is flying home at all on a commercial airline. I figured that he would just….gravitate there…like “Beam me down there Scotty” from Star Trek kind of stuff. He’s got his own cable show and all. And he is tall, much taller than most tall people. I think he’s a little taller than God. And his smile just melts others around him.
I re-think everything and order a gallon of water and ask him to change it into wine.
I am a Capitalist. There is money to be made. Even in first class.
Ricky decides that openly associating with me in front of all of these people may tarnish his stellar reputation. He begins talking church stuff to the person sitting next him. I immediately lose interest.
Staring out of the window I think back to the morning. Angela the maid burst into my room from the rain. She spit Spanish at me as though from a machine gun then she hugged me tight.
“I have no idea what you just said,” I said to the top of her head which was buried in my chest.
Her black face looked up at me with a mouth full of the whitest teeth. Rain drops were on her glasses.
“You leaving me today! You can’t leave me today! You got another week or something. Who’s doing to teach you Spanish?”
I laugh out loud with her. “Somebody back home because you’re doing a terrible job.”
“Did you get a late check out?” she asks.
“Of course not,” I tell her. “I’ll leave when you tell me to leave. Why would I bother with the people who run the place?
She laughs. “I got you. I got you.”
She hugs me tightly and tells me goodbye as she dashes off to clean another room.
I take it as a sign to make the rounds and say goodbye to the Koster family and Jack and Loretta, all friends from Canada. Carlos isn’t at work yet so I Face Book him and we promise to talk again soon. Hyler and Cass meet me back at my tiny little studio for the shared cab ride back to Princess Julia Airport. Daisy is our driver and she and I go way back. She drives the car like she just stole it.
Ricky Temple hits me on the shoulder interrupting my thoughts as professional Christians are prone to do.
“Hey media boy,” he says with his million dollar smile, “When you went out you did it with a bang! What exactly you been doing?”
I hate it when he calls me boy.
But he is my friend and I look at him looking at me as though I’m getting ready to share a secret that nobody else knows. He leans forward across the aisle in anticipation. It seemed like forever before I answered him but it was really only seconds.
I winked at him and said, “I’ve been getting ready.”
He leans back with his smile. “Oh yeah? Getting ready for what?”
“For me,” I tell him.
And we laugh.
I’m not quite certain what faith actually overcame in the naming of his church but Ricky is charismatic as hell, which he would likely not appreciate me saying. I want to order him a glass of wine to see is he can turn it into water. That would be impressive. I have a lot of faith in him.
He prayed the blessing at the dedication ceremony for the Dutch Town and said a lot of nice things about me. I’ve toured his church empire which took like a week. We laughed a lot during that time.
I am surprised that he is flying home at all on a commercial airline. I figured that he would just….gravitate there…like “Beam me down there Scotty” from Star Trek kind of stuff. He’s got his own cable show and all. And he is tall, much taller than most tall people. I think he’s a little taller than God. And his smile just melts others around him.
I re-think everything and order a gallon of water and ask him to change it into wine.
I am a Capitalist. There is money to be made. Even in first class.
Ricky decides that openly associating with me in front of all of these people may tarnish his stellar reputation. He begins talking church stuff to the person sitting next him. I immediately lose interest.
Staring out of the window I think back to the morning. Angela the maid burst into my room from the rain. She spit Spanish at me as though from a machine gun then she hugged me tight.
“I have no idea what you just said,” I said to the top of her head which was buried in my chest.
Her black face looked up at me with a mouth full of the whitest teeth. Rain drops were on her glasses.
“You leaving me today! You can’t leave me today! You got another week or something. Who’s doing to teach you Spanish?”
I laugh out loud with her. “Somebody back home because you’re doing a terrible job.”
“Did you get a late check out?” she asks.
“Of course not,” I tell her. “I’ll leave when you tell me to leave. Why would I bother with the people who run the place?
She laughs. “I got you. I got you.”
She hugs me tightly and tells me goodbye as she dashes off to clean another room.
I take it as a sign to make the rounds and say goodbye to the Koster family and Jack and Loretta, all friends from Canada. Carlos isn’t at work yet so I Face Book him and we promise to talk again soon. Hyler and Cass meet me back at my tiny little studio for the shared cab ride back to Princess Julia Airport. Daisy is our driver and she and I go way back. She drives the car like she just stole it.
Ricky Temple hits me on the shoulder interrupting my thoughts as professional Christians are prone to do.
“Hey media boy,” he says with his million dollar smile, “When you went out you did it with a bang! What exactly you been doing?”
I hate it when he calls me boy.
But he is my friend and I look at him looking at me as though I’m getting ready to share a secret that nobody else knows. He leans forward across the aisle in anticipation. It seemed like forever before I answered him but it was really only seconds.
I winked at him and said, “I’ve been getting ready.”
He leans back with his smile. “Oh yeah? Getting ready for what?”
“For me,” I tell him.
And we laugh.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Homecoming
The wind is fierce and the roaring waves crash over the reef. Coconuts fall from the Palm trees landing around me. The top of the mountain is covered in a purple blanket of clouds. People run passed my tiny little studio trying to keep their baguettes dry. The wind chime dances violently and sings to me. My neighbor dashes by chasing a crêpe that would have been his breakfast. After days on end of postcard perfect weather a tropical depression has come.
It is a good day to leave.
I’ve been here many times and have never yet been quite ready to come home. This time I am. There is a restlessness rumbling inside of me and it is something that I haven’t felt in a long time. It is a sense of anticipation. The birth of new things is coming. The old has passed away.
A couple of years ago I was sitting on the beloved back deck talking to Kathryn Martin. I was sad and tired and my face laid in my hand as we talked. I told her that it was time for me to leave Union Mission. There was nothing else to accomplish there and the longer I stayed my life grew increasingly stale.
“You can’t be serious,” she said.
I didn’t have the energy to respond.
After that I ended up staying which was a rotten mistake in many ways and a blessing in others. Isn’t it funny how life is that way? Ying and Yang always go together. Breathing in is always followed by exhaling. The good goes with the bad.
So I stayed and Union Mission survived some pretty horrific happenings. That’s the good. The bad is that it cost a lot. I became consumed with correcting the wrong. I drank too much. I grew self absorbed. I lost the capacity to really love others because it was suddenly all about me. Or the “me” that others wanted me to be. Not who I really was.
“But I still liked you better when you hated yourself,” is a song from the Badlees that my son Jeremy introduced me to. I love it. “Good friends don’t come easy, even assholes like you,” is the other great line.
And those last couple of years I grew to hate myself. And other people loved it. And I listened to assholes instead of myself (that would be you Board Chair who chooses to remain anonymous). So I lost many things that I loved.
I am a huge “Lord of the Rings” fan and have read everything, and I mean everything, that J.R.R. Tolkien ever wrote. And everything that C.S. Lewis ever wrote. AND everything that Charles Williams ever wrote. They all taught together at
For years I knew everything. And the proof is in the pudding. At Jefferson Street Baptist Chapel and at Union Mission success was rapid and incredible. I lived this large life. And a couple of things happen when you live large. A lot of people appreciate and admire it. They tell you so. Then there are others who hate you because you have achieved success that they feel belong to them.
For the better part of the last year I’ve been quiet. I’ve let my wounds heal and marvel at the scars. My large world suddenly became small. The thousands of people that I know were reduced to a handful of friends. I know who loves me. And I know who doesn’t.
I’m ready to do things now. The restlessness that has always guided me washes over my heart. There are new rules to be broken. Accomplishments await! Love is all around me. It just means that I have to stop being self absorbed and recognize it.
Tolkien and Lewis used to drive one another crazy as they drank pitcher after pitcher of beer. One wrote one manuscript in his entire life that was a million pages long and ended up being multiple books and an incredible trilogy of movies. The other wrote thirty books and now has his own movie series with the Chronicle of Narnia.
But both readily admitted that it was Charles Williams who motivated them to do it all. He brooded. He ordered the next pitcher. His books are dark and not well known. There are no movies made from his writings. He went to the dark places to create and inspire.
So I feel creative again. And I don’t mind brooding about it. This morning when I the wind and the rain woke me, I turned on the computer and there were lots of messages from lots of people; some wanting me to come home and others who don’t really care. One told me that I could go to hell.
That’s cool. I’ve been to hell. Now I’m coming home.
To me.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Wine and Cheese
On Monday’s Steve and Linda the managers here throw a wine and cheese party for all of the guests. They go through a hundred bottles pouring it in little plastic cups. A table is set up with various brie and cheeses. Almost everyone attends the weekly event and the outside patio and the restaurant are jammed.
In years gone by I’ve helped Carlos who oversees the restaurant serve the wine because the managers were away. Then Conner and I got to taking our own wine glasses as a way being different. Someone evidently complained and we were stripped of our wine glasses in front of everyone and handed plastic cups. That led to us, along with our friend Jacob, to throw an alternative wine and cheese the following week. About sixty people came.
Last night I was sitting on the porch of the tiny studio reading letters. People began strolling by on their way to the swore many asking if I was coming. I assured them that I would be there shortly and a bit later I made my way down the sandy road.
Linda was pouring the wine and handed me a cup. I found Jack my friend from Canada and we sat on the wall laughing and talking. After a bit, I made my way to get a refill. Carlos was now pouring and he wouldn’t serve me. He is upset with me still over Christmas when I failed to go to his house for the celebration. It had been a hard day for me, this being the first time in my life that I’ve navigated the holiday alone.
“Really” I asked him.
He turned his head away.
I shook mine and walked inside the restaurant where J.P. was behind the bar. In lighting speed he handed me a glass filled to the brim.
Paul from Michigan was sitting at the bar rather than joining the crowd. He is a good friend of Carlos’ too and owns an apartment on the island, spending the winter months here. He’d watched what had happened.
“He isn’t angry,” Paul explained. “He’s just hurt. They were so excited that you are here and really wanted to help you get through Christmas in a good way.”
I looked back at Carlos who is watching us.
So I began explaining to Paul who held up his hand and said, “Hey I understand. I’ve been there.”
So I wandered off into the warm night making my way to the beach. A billion stars hung above the water. The lights of Anguilla lay just out of reach. St. Bart’s shown in the distance. And the lights on the mountain at the far end of the beach looked like a massive Christmas tree.
I threw the wine in the sand and sat down.
Isn’t that the way it is sometimes? You do the very best that you know how to do to get yourself through. For the most part your friends give you space when you need it or take it away when you don’t. The last thing you want to do is make it all harder by offending someone that you care. Somehow you do and what is already a difficult time becomes even more so. Damned if do. Damned if you don’t. And I’ve never been one to disappoint people so it grates my soul like fingernails across a chalk board.
After a while there is nothing to do except start all over. God’s greatest gift! I stand and brush the sand from me. Then I dive in the ocean and baptize myself in forgiveness.
I walk back inside and J. P. hands me another glass of wine before I can ask for one. Carlos is watching me intently.
Someone grabs me and turns me around. I recognize him from previous years. “How are you?” he slaps me on the shoulder. “Where is that beautiful wife of yours?”
I stare at him for a second. “Over there somewhere,” I answer.
Then I spy the Koster kids all in a Mosh pit kind of collection and I run to them.
And I dance.
In years gone by I’ve helped Carlos who oversees the restaurant serve the wine because the managers were away. Then Conner and I got to taking our own wine glasses as a way being different. Someone evidently complained and we were stripped of our wine glasses in front of everyone and handed plastic cups. That led to us, along with our friend Jacob, to throw an alternative wine and cheese the following week. About sixty people came.
Last night I was sitting on the porch of the tiny studio reading letters. People began strolling by on their way to the swore many asking if I was coming. I assured them that I would be there shortly and a bit later I made my way down the sandy road.
Linda was pouring the wine and handed me a cup. I found Jack my friend from Canada and we sat on the wall laughing and talking. After a bit, I made my way to get a refill. Carlos was now pouring and he wouldn’t serve me. He is upset with me still over Christmas when I failed to go to his house for the celebration. It had been a hard day for me, this being the first time in my life that I’ve navigated the holiday alone.
“Really” I asked him.
He turned his head away.
I shook mine and walked inside the restaurant where J.P. was behind the bar. In lighting speed he handed me a glass filled to the brim.
Paul from Michigan was sitting at the bar rather than joining the crowd. He is a good friend of Carlos’ too and owns an apartment on the island, spending the winter months here. He’d watched what had happened.
“He isn’t angry,” Paul explained. “He’s just hurt. They were so excited that you are here and really wanted to help you get through Christmas in a good way.”
I looked back at Carlos who is watching us.
So I began explaining to Paul who held up his hand and said, “Hey I understand. I’ve been there.”
So I wandered off into the warm night making my way to the beach. A billion stars hung above the water. The lights of Anguilla lay just out of reach. St. Bart’s shown in the distance. And the lights on the mountain at the far end of the beach looked like a massive Christmas tree.
I threw the wine in the sand and sat down.
Isn’t that the way it is sometimes? You do the very best that you know how to do to get yourself through. For the most part your friends give you space when you need it or take it away when you don’t. The last thing you want to do is make it all harder by offending someone that you care. Somehow you do and what is already a difficult time becomes even more so. Damned if do. Damned if you don’t. And I’ve never been one to disappoint people so it grates my soul like fingernails across a chalk board.
After a while there is nothing to do except start all over. God’s greatest gift! I stand and brush the sand from me. Then I dive in the ocean and baptize myself in forgiveness.
I walk back inside and J. P. hands me another glass of wine before I can ask for one. Carlos is watching me intently.
Someone grabs me and turns me around. I recognize him from previous years. “How are you?” he slaps me on the shoulder. “Where is that beautiful wife of yours?”
I stare at him for a second. “Over there somewhere,” I answer.
Then I spy the Koster kids all in a Mosh pit kind of collection and I run to them.
And I dance.
Monday, December 27, 2010
A Byproduct of Living Alone
Taking a stool beside the bar at Andy and Cheryl’s Baywatch, a New Jersey style beach restaurant, I chatted with Cheryl. She and Andy used to be married but now they are co-owners of one of the most successful business’ on Orient Beach. It makes for some interesting observations sometimes like today when they were fighting as I made my way into the open air place in bare feet.
Cheryl took my entrance as an opportunity to walk away from Andy by hugging me, dragging me to the far end of the place from Andy and decided to stay close by me. Ross the bartender handed me a beer. Adrian strolls over to give me a hug; meaning he almost broke my ribs. Brilliant white teeth are a stark contrast to his black skin and the broad smile cancels out the massive biceps.
“When we going zip lining Mon,” he asks.
“Monday,” I answer.
We both laugh. It is an old joke. Once, Adrian was going to meet a group of us in the rain forest for zip lining. We planned it around his day off which is Monday. We all showed up at the place and it’s closed on Mondays. It’s been a running joke sense.
Baywatch is dead. Normally at noon it’s jammed with diners who order “Mussels a’ la Andy” or “Margarita Shrimp.” Today only one table is occupied and the staff is sitting around joking trying not to be bored. Andy sits at a table near the entrance and starts singing along to the oldies station which is a constant at the restaurant.
“How many people are on the beach?” Cheryl asks me. “This is a terrible day.”
Shrugging my shoulders I try to describe a crowd on a beach that is a mile-and-a-half long. “I don’t know Cheryl. Most of the chairs seem occupied.”
She stares at me for a moment. “What do you want to eat? We’ll make you anything that you want today. Give us a challenge.”
Ross rolls his eyes. I try to think of something that will throw them and that I can eat at the same time.
“How about a jerked Philly Cheese Steak?” I finally suggest.
She smiles. I’ve pulled it off.
“What in the hell be dat Mon!” I hear the cook in the kitchen yell when he reads the ticket. Everybody laughs.
Cheryl hands me a piece of paper with her phone numbers on it. “Let’s do dinner one night,” she says. I tuck the paper in my hat.
My mind drifts back home to all of the dinners that I’ve had alone over the past year. Cheryl lives alone now so I get what she is asking. Most nights it just doesn’t seem worth the effort to cook for one. So I don’t. Or I’ll make myself go out just to get out of the house and be with people. After a few months, I’ve eaten everything that Tybee Island has to offer on multiple occasions and am sick of it all. It becomes this vicious circle of loneliness.
Last week at a Christmas party a person I love was sitting beside me and asked, “Is that all you’re going to eat?” staring at my plate.
“Yeah,” I replied looking in her eyes shrugging my shoulders.
It is a by-product of living alone.
Thankfully other customers arrive and Cheryl rushes off to greet them.
Ross delivers my jerked Philly Cheese Steak and we both stare at it for a moment. If hell were a food, this would be it. It was literally burning on the plate.
“I’ll get you another beer,” Ross said.
“Yeah, make it two.”
Cheryl took my entrance as an opportunity to walk away from Andy by hugging me, dragging me to the far end of the place from Andy and decided to stay close by me. Ross the bartender handed me a beer. Adrian strolls over to give me a hug; meaning he almost broke my ribs. Brilliant white teeth are a stark contrast to his black skin and the broad smile cancels out the massive biceps.
“When we going zip lining Mon,” he asks.
“Monday,” I answer.
We both laugh. It is an old joke. Once, Adrian was going to meet a group of us in the rain forest for zip lining. We planned it around his day off which is Monday. We all showed up at the place and it’s closed on Mondays. It’s been a running joke sense.
Baywatch is dead. Normally at noon it’s jammed with diners who order “Mussels a’ la Andy” or “Margarita Shrimp.” Today only one table is occupied and the staff is sitting around joking trying not to be bored. Andy sits at a table near the entrance and starts singing along to the oldies station which is a constant at the restaurant.
“How many people are on the beach?” Cheryl asks me. “This is a terrible day.”
Shrugging my shoulders I try to describe a crowd on a beach that is a mile-and-a-half long. “I don’t know Cheryl. Most of the chairs seem occupied.”
She stares at me for a moment. “What do you want to eat? We’ll make you anything that you want today. Give us a challenge.”
Ross rolls his eyes. I try to think of something that will throw them and that I can eat at the same time.
“How about a jerked Philly Cheese Steak?” I finally suggest.
She smiles. I’ve pulled it off.
“What in the hell be dat Mon!” I hear the cook in the kitchen yell when he reads the ticket. Everybody laughs.
Cheryl hands me a piece of paper with her phone numbers on it. “Let’s do dinner one night,” she says. I tuck the paper in my hat.
My mind drifts back home to all of the dinners that I’ve had alone over the past year. Cheryl lives alone now so I get what she is asking. Most nights it just doesn’t seem worth the effort to cook for one. So I don’t. Or I’ll make myself go out just to get out of the house and be with people. After a few months, I’ve eaten everything that Tybee Island has to offer on multiple occasions and am sick of it all. It becomes this vicious circle of loneliness.
Last week at a Christmas party a person I love was sitting beside me and asked, “Is that all you’re going to eat?” staring at my plate.
“Yeah,” I replied looking in her eyes shrugging my shoulders.
It is a by-product of living alone.
Thankfully other customers arrive and Cheryl rushes off to greet them.
Ross delivers my jerked Philly Cheese Steak and we both stare at it for a moment. If hell were a food, this would be it. It was literally burning on the plate.
“I’ll get you another beer,” Ross said.
“Yeah, make it two.”
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Boxing Day
In the end, the day ran out of steam as I worked my way through it. The morning was fine enough and the weather was great. I Skyped Kristen and Chelsea and gave them a virtual tour of my studio. By the time night fell though I wasn’t in the mood to celebrate much anything. If the angels were singing it was somewhere else.
Carlos whipped in and I said I was going to stay here. He told me that Verna was going to be upset but I explained and he seemed to understand. He sped away on the sandy road into the night.
After a while I tell myself to snap out of it and wander over to the Villa where another party is taking place. Lucas spies me and runs over. Lucas is the ten year old son of Ana who works here. The rest of the gathering is a mixture of guests staying at the resort.
After an embrace, Lucas pulls me into one of the bedrooms where he has set up Wii and he wants me to play 007 with him; meaning he tries to shoot a virtual me while I try to shoot a virtual him. In no time at all we are two little boys firing away and jerking our bodies from side to side as if that somehow helps the virtual people we are trying to shoot.
A child’s laughter fills the room.
After we finish, Lucas has permanently attached himself to me. His arms wrap around one of mine and he becomes my constant companion for the night. He is continuously begging me to go play Wii with him again. I shot him more than he shot me and he is dying for revenge. I’m smart enough to know to quit while I’m on top. So I keep telling him no and he keeps asking anyway.
Dinner is served and it is a formal sit down affair. My friend Hyler stood and prayed a very Christian prayer to a roomful of mostly non-believers who all just stared at him. Undaunted though Hyler thanked God on behalf of everyone else for the birth of the Christ child.
Because everyone was from somewhere else most of the dinner conversation circled around geography and weather; except for Lucas who kept repeating his plea, “Please Mike one more time! Just one more time”!
Afterwards everyone spilled outside into the warm night. As I began saying my goodbyes I was reminded by Nancy that I have to cook breakfast for everyone on Boxing Day. And it is true that for the past several years I’ve cooked a southern breakfast for my Canadian friends who say “Delish!” with every bite.
Boxing Day is the day after Christmas sales in Canada. Banks close and stores open and bargains are everywhere as the prices come tumbling down. Originally it was a day to make certain that the poor were taken care of but the poor don’t rate as highly as they used to.
Boxing Day come from a Christmas Carol when Good King Wenceslas was surveying his land the day after Christmas when he saw a poor man gathering wood in the middle of a snowstorm. Moved, the King gathered up surplus food and wine and carried them to the peasant's door. Helping the poor at Christmas time seems to come from this story.
Now my very different Christmas is over and the agenda is breakfast. I’ve got a few more days here and will be back on Tybee Island for the New Year. Then this year of transition will be over and a new one will begin. It is very much a stripped down life that I march forward with. Both personally and professionally I am no longer what I was. Everything is new! Everything is mine for the making!
Working through loss and then journeying hard to find myself has reminded me how uncaring people can be, like the poor who are mostly ignored on Boxing Day. But I’ve also learned how incredibly wonderful they can be as they when they choose to make a difference. It is always funny how one group is quite large and the other quite small. The selfishness of many is diminished by the magnitude of the few where love reigns supreme.
So I am ready for this New Year to begin and for this damned current one to end. And as soon as this breakfast is over, I’m taking the boxing gloves off.
Carlos whipped in and I said I was going to stay here. He told me that Verna was going to be upset but I explained and he seemed to understand. He sped away on the sandy road into the night.
After a while I tell myself to snap out of it and wander over to the Villa where another party is taking place. Lucas spies me and runs over. Lucas is the ten year old son of Ana who works here. The rest of the gathering is a mixture of guests staying at the resort.
After an embrace, Lucas pulls me into one of the bedrooms where he has set up Wii and he wants me to play 007 with him; meaning he tries to shoot a virtual me while I try to shoot a virtual him. In no time at all we are two little boys firing away and jerking our bodies from side to side as if that somehow helps the virtual people we are trying to shoot.
A child’s laughter fills the room.
After we finish, Lucas has permanently attached himself to me. His arms wrap around one of mine and he becomes my constant companion for the night. He is continuously begging me to go play Wii with him again. I shot him more than he shot me and he is dying for revenge. I’m smart enough to know to quit while I’m on top. So I keep telling him no and he keeps asking anyway.
Dinner is served and it is a formal sit down affair. My friend Hyler stood and prayed a very Christian prayer to a roomful of mostly non-believers who all just stared at him. Undaunted though Hyler thanked God on behalf of everyone else for the birth of the Christ child.
Because everyone was from somewhere else most of the dinner conversation circled around geography and weather; except for Lucas who kept repeating his plea, “Please Mike one more time! Just one more time”!
Afterwards everyone spilled outside into the warm night. As I began saying my goodbyes I was reminded by Nancy that I have to cook breakfast for everyone on Boxing Day. And it is true that for the past several years I’ve cooked a southern breakfast for my Canadian friends who say “Delish!” with every bite.
Boxing Day is the day after Christmas sales in Canada. Banks close and stores open and bargains are everywhere as the prices come tumbling down. Originally it was a day to make certain that the poor were taken care of but the poor don’t rate as highly as they used to.
Boxing Day come from a Christmas Carol when Good King Wenceslas was surveying his land the day after Christmas when he saw a poor man gathering wood in the middle of a snowstorm. Moved, the King gathered up surplus food and wine and carried them to the peasant's door. Helping the poor at Christmas time seems to come from this story.
Now my very different Christmas is over and the agenda is breakfast. I’ve got a few more days here and will be back on Tybee Island for the New Year. Then this year of transition will be over and a new one will begin. It is very much a stripped down life that I march forward with. Both personally and professionally I am no longer what I was. Everything is new! Everything is mine for the making!
Working through loss and then journeying hard to find myself has reminded me how uncaring people can be, like the poor who are mostly ignored on Boxing Day. But I’ve also learned how incredibly wonderful they can be as they when they choose to make a difference. It is always funny how one group is quite large and the other quite small. The selfishness of many is diminished by the magnitude of the few where love reigns supreme.
So I am ready for this New Year to begin and for this damned current one to end. And as soon as this breakfast is over, I’m taking the boxing gloves off.
Saturday, December 25, 2010
A Very Different Christmas
Samba Christmas tunes blast from the radio making it hard not to dance as I sit here sipping coffee. A stocking hangs from the mast of the schooner moored in the bay. Bright sunshine radiate the long leafs of the Palm trees which dance in the Trade Winds. The waves are barely making it over the reef and the aqua-blue water of the Orient Bay is flat and calm.
Christmas in St. Martin begins on Halloween and it is taken very seriously. You can find fresh Christmas trees but they quickly turn brown in the heat. People don’t care. There are decorated brown trees everywhere! My friend Verna drove me past the best Christmas decoration on the island, a giant inflatable Frosty the Snowman, and she clapped and grinned like a little girl when she saw it for the hundredth time. She still has the wonderment of a child this time of year.
Last night at dark-thirty I wandered over to the Villa where my friends Paul and Nancy were hosting a cocktail party. I was immediately chided for being late. “It’s almost time for dinner,” Nancy scolded. “We didn’t think that you were going to come at all.”
I’d been sitting outside when Nathalie came over after she had gotten off work. She’d asked me to order and bring her pairs of shoes when I came because Reebok doesn’t do international shipping. So I did and she’d come to pay me and collect them. She asked if I wanted to go out with her and her friends which I quickly declined. Nathalie has this habit of staying out all night before stumbling into work the next morning. She once asked me to go get her a cappuccino before giving me a massage.
“You have to peel potatoes tomorrow,” Nancy tells me, “and don’t cut yourself this year.”
I ignore her and talk to my friend Suz and her boyfriend.
At Papagayo’s, the restaurant here, there was a buffet supper of traditional American fare. I sat surrounded by Canadians and a politician from Wisconsin who wanted to talk politics. I left the table and joined another group of Canadians who wanted to dance.
Carlos, the restaurant manager, had found a new D J at the last minute because the one booked was sick. The new guy was having a hard time finding the right kind of music for the crowd. Of course I was no help requesting songs by PINK or the “Black Eyed Peas”. He finally hit on 1950s Rock-and-Roll and the dance floor filled.
I wandered into the forbidden zone where the wait staff wait and danced with Nancy and then Aralias. He was wearing a ring on the finger and I was asking him who he had traded me in for. Nancy grabbed me and started pulling me away before Carlos arrived and told me that I couldn’t be back there. When I stopped and stared at him with mock horror on my face, he burst into laughter shaking his head and giving up.
As the dance floor filled I take it as my cue to leave and wander down the sandy road into the warmth of the night. Brilliant stars fill the sky and the lights of Anguilla dance on the water across the way. I wander down to the beach collecting my thoughts on this very different Christmas time.
Carlos wanders out behind me and puts his arm around my shoulder. “I’ll pick you up at 6:00,” he tells me which can mean anytime after dark.
I nod my head and he hugs me before going back inside to work.
Making my way back to the studio I turn on the computer and am surprised to see numerous greetings and messages from a very diverse group. I fall into late night conversations with a few folks and then realize that there is an hour time difference. What is late for me is not so late for them.
Having spent the better part of yesterday sleeping, I am surprised that I am sleepy. I walk back outside to tell the stars goodnight.
“Chestnuts roasting on an open fire,” is sung by Nat King Cole as the final song from Papgayos. And in the warmth of the night I wish myself a merry little Christmas.
And my heart fills until the tears come.
Christmas in St. Martin begins on Halloween and it is taken very seriously. You can find fresh Christmas trees but they quickly turn brown in the heat. People don’t care. There are decorated brown trees everywhere! My friend Verna drove me past the best Christmas decoration on the island, a giant inflatable Frosty the Snowman, and she clapped and grinned like a little girl when she saw it for the hundredth time. She still has the wonderment of a child this time of year.
Last night at dark-thirty I wandered over to the Villa where my friends Paul and Nancy were hosting a cocktail party. I was immediately chided for being late. “It’s almost time for dinner,” Nancy scolded. “We didn’t think that you were going to come at all.”
I’d been sitting outside when Nathalie came over after she had gotten off work. She’d asked me to order and bring her pairs of shoes when I came because Reebok doesn’t do international shipping. So I did and she’d come to pay me and collect them. She asked if I wanted to go out with her and her friends which I quickly declined. Nathalie has this habit of staying out all night before stumbling into work the next morning. She once asked me to go get her a cappuccino before giving me a massage.
“You have to peel potatoes tomorrow,” Nancy tells me, “and don’t cut yourself this year.”
I ignore her and talk to my friend Suz and her boyfriend.
At Papagayo’s, the restaurant here, there was a buffet supper of traditional American fare. I sat surrounded by Canadians and a politician from Wisconsin who wanted to talk politics. I left the table and joined another group of Canadians who wanted to dance.
Carlos, the restaurant manager, had found a new D J at the last minute because the one booked was sick. The new guy was having a hard time finding the right kind of music for the crowd. Of course I was no help requesting songs by PINK or the “Black Eyed Peas”. He finally hit on 1950s Rock-and-Roll and the dance floor filled.
I wandered into the forbidden zone where the wait staff wait and danced with Nancy and then Aralias. He was wearing a ring on the finger and I was asking him who he had traded me in for. Nancy grabbed me and started pulling me away before Carlos arrived and told me that I couldn’t be back there. When I stopped and stared at him with mock horror on my face, he burst into laughter shaking his head and giving up.
As the dance floor filled I take it as my cue to leave and wander down the sandy road into the warmth of the night. Brilliant stars fill the sky and the lights of Anguilla dance on the water across the way. I wander down to the beach collecting my thoughts on this very different Christmas time.
Carlos wanders out behind me and puts his arm around my shoulder. “I’ll pick you up at 6:00,” he tells me which can mean anytime after dark.
I nod my head and he hugs me before going back inside to work.
Making my way back to the studio I turn on the computer and am surprised to see numerous greetings and messages from a very diverse group. I fall into late night conversations with a few folks and then realize that there is an hour time difference. What is late for me is not so late for them.
Having spent the better part of yesterday sleeping, I am surprised that I am sleepy. I walk back outside to tell the stars goodnight.
“Chestnuts roasting on an open fire,” is sung by Nat King Cole as the final song from Papgayos. And in the warmth of the night I wish myself a merry little Christmas.
And my heart fills until the tears come.
Friday, December 24, 2010
Making Illusion Reality
Though the drapes are heavy and a towel hangs over the window in the door, the sunlight fills the tiny studio. One eye cracks open and I smile. Then I do something that I never do. I just lay in bed.
Thinking.
Wishing.
I lay there for an hour before jumping up and ripping the curtains to the sliding glass doors open. Then I do this stumbling dance opening every window and the brilliance of the sun floods the room.
I wobble outside making my way towards the ocean, wade in to my knees and fall over. The Kingdom has come on earth as it is in heaven. The sea kisses me awake. I stand and survey the day. The sky is such a deep blue that a full moon and the sun dance with one another on opposite ends of the heavens. The Palm trees dance in the trade winds which are light.
Making my way back to the studio I pour a cup of coffee, grab the computer and sit on the tiny porch with the heavy wooden table. Before I take the first sip, Victor flies up in a golf card and jumps out before it stops. Victor is over six feet tall, one of the sweetest security guards that I’ve ever met and is the father of my friend Carlos who oversees the restaurant here.
We embrace and he sits across from me speaking in his Caribbean lilt. “Did you see the picture of me on the Internet”
I tell him that I have not and he looks at my Netbook wanting me to find it. So I search and cannot. His face falls.
“My son Carlos will find it for us,” he tells me and I smile.
“I must tell you the news my friend,” he says standing up. “I am employee of the year! Two plane tickets to anywhere I want to go. Five nights anywhere I want to stay. And 500 Euros in my pocket!”
Jumping up I hug him. His smile beams across his body.
“OK my friend, I see you tomorrow,” he says jumping back in his golf cart. I am invited to Carlos’ for the family Christmas whatever-it-is-they-do-in-the-Caribbean celebration.
People are strolling by with croissants or baguettes from Le’ Boutique. “Good Morning,” they all pleasantly say. Half I do not know and the other half I do. Ned stops to talk about how good the Wi-Fi is this trip. Cindy stops to see if I need anything from the store. Terry from Oklahoma stops to ask where my UGA flag is.
For years I hung one from my beach chair and the outside of the tiny studio but gave it away and have never gotten around to replacing it.
Martina one of the maids pulls her cart by.
“Oh My God,” she screams in the Caribbean lilt, “Mike! You are here for Christmas!” and she leaves the cart full of cleaning supplies, brooms and mops and hugs me tight.
“Christmas is good,” she concludes and I love Martina as much as I love anybody. I once cooked her lunch and along with Carlos and Verna we all hid out in the studio when they should have been working and just talked and laughed.
She pulls her cart away smiling. I cannot help but smile back.
My celebration of the coming of the Christ-child will consist of a swim to the reef where I will marvel at everything underneath, a beach walk to Orange to wish my friend Oliver Merry Christmas over a fish sandwich, and a day with my feet in the sea. I wonder if the Tiny Dancer is here. I hope so.
Winston calls me from the front desk to tell me that they have found my storage bin. It has my stuff in it; Extra pillows, a wind chime from the past; Snorkel and fins; a radio, coffee filters. The place is suddenly home again.
Maria comes in barking Spanish at me. I am her tenant meaning that she is the maid of this room. She has been trying to teach me Spanish for the past year and has taken the approach of only speaking to me in Spanish until I start making her laugh. She hugs me tells me that she loves it when I am in her section because there isn’t much to clean. So she sits across from me and we talk about what her Christmas will be like.
In many ways this place is an illusion. A lot of hard work goes on behind the scenes to reach this place of island simplicity. Over the years I have come to appreciate and celebrate and love the people who make it all a reality.
They are my friends.
People who make illusions reality always have been.
Thinking.
Wishing.
I lay there for an hour before jumping up and ripping the curtains to the sliding glass doors open. Then I do this stumbling dance opening every window and the brilliance of the sun floods the room.
I wobble outside making my way towards the ocean, wade in to my knees and fall over. The Kingdom has come on earth as it is in heaven. The sea kisses me awake. I stand and survey the day. The sky is such a deep blue that a full moon and the sun dance with one another on opposite ends of the heavens. The Palm trees dance in the trade winds which are light.
Making my way back to the studio I pour a cup of coffee, grab the computer and sit on the tiny porch with the heavy wooden table. Before I take the first sip, Victor flies up in a golf card and jumps out before it stops. Victor is over six feet tall, one of the sweetest security guards that I’ve ever met and is the father of my friend Carlos who oversees the restaurant here.
We embrace and he sits across from me speaking in his Caribbean lilt. “Did you see the picture of me on the Internet”
I tell him that I have not and he looks at my Netbook wanting me to find it. So I search and cannot. His face falls.
“My son Carlos will find it for us,” he tells me and I smile.
“I must tell you the news my friend,” he says standing up. “I am employee of the year! Two plane tickets to anywhere I want to go. Five nights anywhere I want to stay. And 500 Euros in my pocket!”
Jumping up I hug him. His smile beams across his body.
“OK my friend, I see you tomorrow,” he says jumping back in his golf cart. I am invited to Carlos’ for the family Christmas whatever-it-is-they-do-in-the-Caribbean celebration.
People are strolling by with croissants or baguettes from Le’ Boutique. “Good Morning,” they all pleasantly say. Half I do not know and the other half I do. Ned stops to talk about how good the Wi-Fi is this trip. Cindy stops to see if I need anything from the store. Terry from Oklahoma stops to ask where my UGA flag is.
For years I hung one from my beach chair and the outside of the tiny studio but gave it away and have never gotten around to replacing it.
Martina one of the maids pulls her cart by.
“Oh My God,” she screams in the Caribbean lilt, “Mike! You are here for Christmas!” and she leaves the cart full of cleaning supplies, brooms and mops and hugs me tight.
“Christmas is good,” she concludes and I love Martina as much as I love anybody. I once cooked her lunch and along with Carlos and Verna we all hid out in the studio when they should have been working and just talked and laughed.
She pulls her cart away smiling. I cannot help but smile back.
My celebration of the coming of the Christ-child will consist of a swim to the reef where I will marvel at everything underneath, a beach walk to Orange to wish my friend Oliver Merry Christmas over a fish sandwich, and a day with my feet in the sea. I wonder if the Tiny Dancer is here. I hope so.
Winston calls me from the front desk to tell me that they have found my storage bin. It has my stuff in it; Extra pillows, a wind chime from the past; Snorkel and fins; a radio, coffee filters. The place is suddenly home again.
Maria comes in barking Spanish at me. I am her tenant meaning that she is the maid of this room. She has been trying to teach me Spanish for the past year and has taken the approach of only speaking to me in Spanish until I start making her laugh. She hugs me tells me that she loves it when I am in her section because there isn’t much to clean. So she sits across from me and we talk about what her Christmas will be like.
In many ways this place is an illusion. A lot of hard work goes on behind the scenes to reach this place of island simplicity. Over the years I have come to appreciate and celebrate and love the people who make it all a reality.
They are my friends.
People who make illusions reality always have been.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
It's Geting Better All the Time
It’s only happened a couple of time as Christmas has approached. Last week Goddess and I found ourselves sitting under the decorated tree and it was a lonely and frustrating evening. Then a couple of nights ago I sat up late into the night staring at the lights contemplating … everything.
Last night my family gathered at my mother’s house for the annual celebration. Dad wasn’t there, of course, but David, Age, Jeremy and I drove to Driftaway where a plaque hangs honoring him. All of his friends were there and we all embraced and they told us stories about things Dad had said or done. We were all moved by how much they love him though it’s been a year-and-a-half since he died.
Back at Mom’s house David’s family looked dressed for Christmas with Reindeer sweaters and bright colors. Angi wore black and her sons were dressed as though ready to take the field for a football game. My kids and I looked like we had just stumbled in from a Pfish concert; or maybe the Grateful Dead.
The table was filled with ham, turkey, dressing, macaroni and cheese, greens, beans, bread and too many things to possibly eat. There was plenty of wine and iced tea.
Mom asked me to say a few things before dinner so I recognized our friends who were there and then turned it over to David, who said grace. Meaning he had this long soliloquy with God. Afterwards he took Dad’s place of going first in line for the food.
Presents were distributed to the kids and then the smaller ones started singing Christmas carols. Everyone laughed when they mixed up the words to “Frosty the Snowman” or “Oh Tannenbaum”. The room was filled with all of the things that Christmas is supposed to bring.
I sat staring out of a window. At one point I noticed my Mother staring at me as I stared outside. I really wasn’t there. The whole Christmas season has been out of sorts and I’ve done my best to avoid it. I looked at Mom and she resumed singing along with the kids. I stared out of the window again. Everything in the room was muted.
“Nobody ought to be alone on Christmas,” Darlene Love sings. Yet I am.
It is funny after spending a career making certain that everyone else in the world wasn’t, I suddenly am. I feel it the most when I wake up in the morning. I shake it off when I get to the Breakfast Club but it returns right before I go to bed.
Others feel it too even though they may be sleeping beside someone or have a house full of children. I understand that. But Thanksgiving launched a Christmas spent in three-quarter time for me.
It is also the anniversary of when I was married. Anniversaries are funny things. They can be joyous if you are still in love with the person that you married all of those years ago or they can be agony if you’re not.
On the day that someone you loved with all of your heart dies … well you grow to never really like that day again.
At least for this year, Christmas has taken on the sad representation of the swan song of a marriage. I remember it fondly and when I read what I wrote then it is full of optimism and hope. I remember dancing with my wife and taking walks down the beach though as our time in St. Martin drew to again she withdrew. A couple of weeks later it was all over.
I sit on a plane writing this. The year is ending as it began. I am heading back to St. Martin for Christmas by myself. It appears I’ll be returning much earlier than I intended because my passport expires in a few days and even friends in Congress can’t get anything done until after the New Year’s (HA as if they get much anything done anyway!).
No question that the past year was the most difficult and frustrating that I’ve ever lived. The first half was full of loss. The second half has been this Sabbatical that should have been taken long ago. I’ve learned a lot about other people but mostly about me. During the last few months joy has returned to me.
For Christmas this year Shirley gave me an ornament that meant a lot to her. Chelsea and Sam gave me Monty Python. A lot of people gave me grief and heartache. Then there were these angels that showed up though from the most random of places. I choose to dwell on them and the coming of a new year.
Or as the Beatles sang, “It’s getting better all the time.”
“Couldn’t get much worse.”
Last night my family gathered at my mother’s house for the annual celebration. Dad wasn’t there, of course, but David, Age, Jeremy and I drove to Driftaway where a plaque hangs honoring him. All of his friends were there and we all embraced and they told us stories about things Dad had said or done. We were all moved by how much they love him though it’s been a year-and-a-half since he died.
Back at Mom’s house David’s family looked dressed for Christmas with Reindeer sweaters and bright colors. Angi wore black and her sons were dressed as though ready to take the field for a football game. My kids and I looked like we had just stumbled in from a Pfish concert; or maybe the Grateful Dead.
The table was filled with ham, turkey, dressing, macaroni and cheese, greens, beans, bread and too many things to possibly eat. There was plenty of wine and iced tea.
Mom asked me to say a few things before dinner so I recognized our friends who were there and then turned it over to David, who said grace. Meaning he had this long soliloquy with God. Afterwards he took Dad’s place of going first in line for the food.
Presents were distributed to the kids and then the smaller ones started singing Christmas carols. Everyone laughed when they mixed up the words to “Frosty the Snowman” or “Oh Tannenbaum”. The room was filled with all of the things that Christmas is supposed to bring.
I sat staring out of a window. At one point I noticed my Mother staring at me as I stared outside. I really wasn’t there. The whole Christmas season has been out of sorts and I’ve done my best to avoid it. I looked at Mom and she resumed singing along with the kids. I stared out of the window again. Everything in the room was muted.
“Nobody ought to be alone on Christmas,” Darlene Love sings. Yet I am.
It is funny after spending a career making certain that everyone else in the world wasn’t, I suddenly am. I feel it the most when I wake up in the morning. I shake it off when I get to the Breakfast Club but it returns right before I go to bed.
Others feel it too even though they may be sleeping beside someone or have a house full of children. I understand that. But Thanksgiving launched a Christmas spent in three-quarter time for me.
It is also the anniversary of when I was married. Anniversaries are funny things. They can be joyous if you are still in love with the person that you married all of those years ago or they can be agony if you’re not.
On the day that someone you loved with all of your heart dies … well you grow to never really like that day again.
At least for this year, Christmas has taken on the sad representation of the swan song of a marriage. I remember it fondly and when I read what I wrote then it is full of optimism and hope. I remember dancing with my wife and taking walks down the beach though as our time in St. Martin drew to again she withdrew. A couple of weeks later it was all over.
I sit on a plane writing this. The year is ending as it began. I am heading back to St. Martin for Christmas by myself. It appears I’ll be returning much earlier than I intended because my passport expires in a few days and even friends in Congress can’t get anything done until after the New Year’s (HA as if they get much anything done anyway!).
No question that the past year was the most difficult and frustrating that I’ve ever lived. The first half was full of loss. The second half has been this Sabbatical that should have been taken long ago. I’ve learned a lot about other people but mostly about me. During the last few months joy has returned to me.
For Christmas this year Shirley gave me an ornament that meant a lot to her. Chelsea and Sam gave me Monty Python. A lot of people gave me grief and heartache. Then there were these angels that showed up though from the most random of places. I choose to dwell on them and the coming of a new year.
Or as the Beatles sang, “It’s getting better all the time.”
“Couldn’t get much worse.”
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Great Expectations
“Micheal Elliott,” I say into my cell phone as I sit in front of the computer lost in thought.
“Well darling when you go into hiding you REALLY go into hiding,” said the maple syrup southern drawl of Trish DuPriest. “So I want to know where in the hell are you? What are you doing? And who are you with?”
A broad smile spread upon my face. Trish and I go way back. She works in Congressman Jack Kingston’s office taking care of constituents at the local level. Before that she did the same thing for Congressman Lindsay Thomas. One is a Republican and the other a Democrat. Elected officials come and go but the people who really get things done remain the same.
For years Trish would call me needing something for someone she was trying to help or I would call her for the same thing. We developed a good friendship going this. The last time that I talked to her was in May when she’d called wanting something for someone.
“Oh,” she continued, “and Merry Christmas!”
I busted out laughing. Typical Trish!
I’d called her needing something. She told me that it was impossible to accomplish and then told me how to do it. There is always a way. We both share that as a guiding philosophy of helping people.
“Not so fast,” she commanded, “answer my questions first.
So I did. We talked a long time about Union Mission and about the future. At the end I was ordered to come and see her when I return home in a few weeks.
“Yes mam,” I replied and returned my attention to my computer.
The phone rang again. It was Skutch. Skutch is a reporter for the newspaper and has covered me for years. Actually he looks like an actor in a “B” moive playing a reporter. A month or so ago we had lunch together with our friend Shirley at the Breakfast Club.
“Mike,” he said in his Baltimore mumbling now laced with southern words, “when are you going to call me and let me do a story on what you’re doing.”
“When it’s a story,” I laughed back.
“Well son, I’m the reporter so let me decide that.”
I busted out laughing again.
“Soon Skutch soon,” I replied.
“Alright,” he mumbled, “Merry Christmas then.”
Then I was off to town for a lunch meeting at Johnny Harris’ an old Savannah tradition. Rebekah, Jodi and Peter and I were there thinking through an idea. I hadn’t seen Peter in a while though for years we were wed at the hip as we created respite care, the J. C. Lewis Health Center, defined economic arguments for taking health care to where people are rather than the other way around. We bear hugged one another and then the conversation began.
Peter and I are like two knights fighting for a Queen when we talk. We violently throw words at one another and use any means possible to make our points. When one of us pauses or concedes, the other one smiles. “Gotcha!”
At the end of the conversation Peter said, “Well you know everyone is just waiting to see what you’re going to do next. We all talk it about it.”
Immediately I thought of my dear friend Mary Ann Beil. She’d told me the same thing a couple of months ago as I hobbled out of a hospital with a heavily wrapped leg.
It finally hit me that there is a sense of expectation about what I do next. I have a tendency to think about the task at hand, how others are doing, and maybe get around to me at some point. That is why this Sabbatical has been so helpful. To quote Dar Williams, “but oh how I loved everyone else, when I got to talk so much about myself.”
So last night in a quiet house, midnight had passed and the full moon competed with the Christmas tree lights, I sat and thought; about the future, who I love and who I don’t, and the expectations out there that others have of me.
“Goddess,” I softly said in my own southern drawl influenced by years of public speaking. She cocked her head and looked at me.
“It really doesn’t matter what other people expect,” I told my dog. “What do you hear in these sounds?” I quoted Dar again.
“The stories that nobody hears…I collect these sounds in my ears…and that’s what I like about, that’s what I like about…these sounds.”
“Well darling when you go into hiding you REALLY go into hiding,” said the maple syrup southern drawl of Trish DuPriest. “So I want to know where in the hell are you? What are you doing? And who are you with?”
A broad smile spread upon my face. Trish and I go way back. She works in Congressman Jack Kingston’s office taking care of constituents at the local level. Before that she did the same thing for Congressman Lindsay Thomas. One is a Republican and the other a Democrat. Elected officials come and go but the people who really get things done remain the same.
For years Trish would call me needing something for someone she was trying to help or I would call her for the same thing. We developed a good friendship going this. The last time that I talked to her was in May when she’d called wanting something for someone.
“Oh,” she continued, “and Merry Christmas!”
I busted out laughing. Typical Trish!
I’d called her needing something. She told me that it was impossible to accomplish and then told me how to do it. There is always a way. We both share that as a guiding philosophy of helping people.
“Not so fast,” she commanded, “answer my questions first.
So I did. We talked a long time about Union Mission and about the future. At the end I was ordered to come and see her when I return home in a few weeks.
“Yes mam,” I replied and returned my attention to my computer.
The phone rang again. It was Skutch. Skutch is a reporter for the newspaper and has covered me for years. Actually he looks like an actor in a “B” moive playing a reporter. A month or so ago we had lunch together with our friend Shirley at the Breakfast Club.
“Mike,” he said in his Baltimore mumbling now laced with southern words, “when are you going to call me and let me do a story on what you’re doing.”
“When it’s a story,” I laughed back.
“Well son, I’m the reporter so let me decide that.”
I busted out laughing again.
“Soon Skutch soon,” I replied.
“Alright,” he mumbled, “Merry Christmas then.”
Then I was off to town for a lunch meeting at Johnny Harris’ an old Savannah tradition. Rebekah, Jodi and Peter and I were there thinking through an idea. I hadn’t seen Peter in a while though for years we were wed at the hip as we created respite care, the J. C. Lewis Health Center, defined economic arguments for taking health care to where people are rather than the other way around. We bear hugged one another and then the conversation began.
Peter and I are like two knights fighting for a Queen when we talk. We violently throw words at one another and use any means possible to make our points. When one of us pauses or concedes, the other one smiles. “Gotcha!”
At the end of the conversation Peter said, “Well you know everyone is just waiting to see what you’re going to do next. We all talk it about it.”
Immediately I thought of my dear friend Mary Ann Beil. She’d told me the same thing a couple of months ago as I hobbled out of a hospital with a heavily wrapped leg.
It finally hit me that there is a sense of expectation about what I do next. I have a tendency to think about the task at hand, how others are doing, and maybe get around to me at some point. That is why this Sabbatical has been so helpful. To quote Dar Williams, “but oh how I loved everyone else, when I got to talk so much about myself.”
So last night in a quiet house, midnight had passed and the full moon competed with the Christmas tree lights, I sat and thought; about the future, who I love and who I don’t, and the expectations out there that others have of me.
“Goddess,” I softly said in my own southern drawl influenced by years of public speaking. She cocked her head and looked at me.
“It really doesn’t matter what other people expect,” I told my dog. “What do you hear in these sounds?” I quoted Dar again.
“The stories that nobody hears…I collect these sounds in my ears…and that’s what I like about, that’s what I like about…these sounds.”
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