That's not to say there's not crazy surprises, unexpected turns, scary moments and horrible falls along the way. But there's unanticipated delights, miraculous discoveries, wonderful things and exhilarating heights too.At least that's my life so far.
It's probably yours too.
When the bad things happen ... deaths or divorce, friends who prove they're really not, car wrecks, broken promises and nightmares of the night ... we're naturally shocked.
Then it turns into anger because we rail against the injustice of life not being perfect!
Because we want perfect lives.
Yet none of us have one.
Though lots of people pretend to.
When good things happen ... love, marriage, friends who are consistently so, disasters that are near misses, kept promises and dreams that come true ...we are ecstatic!
Then we downplay it.
We minimize the good and exaggerate the bad.
Why are we wired that way?
The other day Johnny O and I are sitting at The Breakfast Club having coffee and he says, "We've got six-and-a-half marriages between us."
I wince because, though it's true, it's not something I care to think about.
I'm the happiest I've ever been though Sarah would often shoot me if she didn't love me so much. Johnny O's the happiest he's been since I've known him, which is a very long time.
"We should start a business together," he continues. "Anybody thinking about getting married should call us first. We'll guide them through it all. I mean ... we've already experienced everything so others should benefit from our experience. A small fee will save lifetimes of heartache or pave the highway to happy lives like ours!"
I can't think of anything to say.
"One call ... that's all," he says with a beaming smile.
It's hard to not love Johnny O.
"Hope for the best and plan for the worst" is something I used to say.
Now I try to simply take life as it comes. I try to help others do that too.
Taken all at once life can kill you and believe me, I've watched it kill lots of people I cared about.
Life's good and bad. It's not perfect. Concentrating on the bad leaves you dead even if you're still living.
Holding onto the good makes it more enjoyable and I believe life's to be relished because, either way, it doesn't last forever.
Even the worst times have silver linings of good and the best of times always boarder on disaster.
There's Heaven and Hell.
It's just a question of which are you going to hold on to.
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